Feeling guilty

Having extreme guilt because I’m choosing to quit pumping, i was never able to breastfeed and have been exclusively pumping for 3 months now. I’m about to go back to work and it’s just very taxing on me mentally and physically. I know it’s what’s best for my mental health but I’m feeling so guilty for choosing to quit, it feels like I’m failing my baby :(

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My sister always told me breast feeding definitely takes a toll on you mentally and physically. And I was always like yah ok. But now being a new mother, I definitely understand it. We try to do right for our baby and honestly you have done three months of pumping which is awesome.! You have done wat a lot of people can’t do! So be proud and don’t be so hard on yourself, your baby thanks you

Choosing your mental health is not failing your baby! Pumping is really difficult. Be proud of yourself for doing it this long.

3 months is amazing! Coming from a mama who is exhausted from pumping, don’t be too hard on yourself. You’ll feel better after you get your body back!
Your baby will still grow into a happy and healthy little one and you’re doing an amazing job by realizing you need to better your mental health for yourself and baby.

I only pumped for 6 weeks then I decided to formula feed my baby. It’s just so draining to pump every 2-3 hours. The first 2-3 days will be difficult because of the guilt but after you will start to feel better.

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