Alone

So it’s starting to make me depressed being alone, my partner is working full time and I barely even see him… I don’t leave the house because I have zero friends now that I’m pregnant and I’m new to Liverpool.. I’m honestly so worried that I’m gonna be too stressed to do this and I cry most of the time… I’m only 12 weeks pregnant roughly and my first scan isn’t until the 18th… I need help :(

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I feel you except I’m 36+6 and my partner and me aren’t quite together really 😬 and my friends are too busy being whatever they’re doing I have no idea.

Try not to stress yourself out though cause it isn’t good for the baby. I know how hard it can be, I’ve been so stressed and my mental health took such a dip they’re inducing me asap. I am also not from Liverpool either the only people I know here are people who also moved here from the south where I’m from. And my partner who is actually from here 😬

Definitely would be down for coffee dates in the near future

I’m from London, so it’s a big gap like. I’m trying to be calm but I’m so depressed idk how to be. I’d be super happy for someone to have a coffee with or a walk

I know how you are feeling as I’m in the same sort of boat, but have you tried speaking to your partner on how your feeling? Keeping yourself busy is a good way to keep your mind at rest for a bit, even just going on a website and making baskets of baby stuff to keep you motivated as excited and happy about the little cheeky monkey you are making. When you get to your next midwife appointment speak to them about how your feeling or ring up the helpline x

I’ve spoken to him and he just says he has to work… I don’t know how to feel but maybe I’m just going crazy 😞 x

I feel you, even more so now I have my baby boy! My partner is working most of the time and his hours increase as it gets closer to Christmas, I'm constantly stuck in the house with nothing to do. Anything I want to do like go the gym for example, is very hard because I have to wait until my partner has free time just for me to have a little bit of time to myself... also same with no social life 😖 you're not alone!

Feel free to message me, I’m always available

your not alone lovely am 12 weeks also honestly I have days like this only past 2 days I have felt ok to get up an go out I have been bad with nausea and sickness just feel sometimes I have no one and feel lonely but if you ever want too meet up go for a walk or to a cafe or even if you can’t be bothered to go out just give me a message have a chat on here 🫶🏾

Aww bless you, I was working up until I went into labour early so didn't get lonely as such. Happy to chat, fellow alternative lady. I have a 6m boy

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I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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Quick rundown had my baby 3 months ago her dad was cheating on me all the way through pregnancy u til 2 months pp . I was depressed and sad along with pnd ! I allowed him to leave my house sleep about and come back I had no fight left in me I was broken emotionless didn’t want to be here . Fact forward to a few days after valentines day a male friend brought me flowers ex didn’t like it called me all the names ect but 4 days later begging me back I tried for our daughter but he’s put his hands on me twice in the month daily name calling body shaming
Then today we was out his friend rang him why we was in the car to say he has 2 girls for them to go link this was on loud speaker ! I lost my shit arguing we got home I seen red n went for him I then got the hammer & smashed his car windows . I know that was wrong but being goaded daily put down n body shamed made me hate him then I just seen red

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