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How would you feel if you and your close friend more like family stop talking when he got engaged?

Ok here goes the story. My use to be friend lives In. Washington. So when he comes home to New Orleans we always link up and have lunch , or he come to my home and visit me and my family. We was so close we were like brother and sister. No romantic feelings at all. He supported me and I supported him through good times and bad times. So he kept the fact that he was engaged from me. I read it on Facebook. I still called and told him how happy I was for him . So as usually we have lunch and hang when he come home as I stated . So I said let me know what day is good for us To hang out and you get to see the kids. Keep in mind I didn't know he had me on speaker phone and his jealous wife now heard our conversation. She felt some type of way because he said he will make time for us to hang out and for him to see me family. So days went by no call . So when I took a break at work I called to say I'm in the area I get off early. His phone was going straight to voice mail. So at 1st I didn't think nothing of it. So I called about 2 hours later same thing. So I called off my other number and he answered. I said friend you block me??? He said I had to make a choice. I was like huh I'm confused. So his wife now said I heard yall conversation and I look you up on Facebook and I saw you were beautiful so I told him he couldn't be friends with you no more. I was like the fuck? I said so you just going stop being friends with me because your soon to be wife is jealous because I'm beautiful? He said I have to. So she jump back on the conversation and said you sound like you hurt, I said of course we have been friends obe 6 years so yes um very hurt. Because my husband has no issue with him and he even hang my husband when he comes home. So why now it's a issue. She repeated and said because you are beautiful and I told him he can not be friends with you no more. Then she said I'm not jealous it just that I don't want him to be friends or be around beautiful people. I laughed and said boo that means you are jealous. He said he was hurt and it hurted him , but he had to leave all his beautiful friends and beautiful family alone. He even block my sister and other family members. How would you feel if you was in this situation????

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Honestly he has to respect his new spouses wishes. It could be an insecure thing or maybe she has a past trauma due to one of her “exs” cheating on her with a “friend. Either way, you as a friend just have to respect it and move on.

I did move on and I respected it. But I was like if my husband can be cool with us being friends why she couldn't?

because your husband isn’t the same person with the same life experiences or hang ups as his wife. Honestly he will probably end up divorced.

true! I dont see a problem with it especially being both you guys are married and long term friends

If she had him stop talking to his own family then his wife has even bigger issues to be honest. Not to mention a man doesn’t need a woman to be beautiful to cheat. They often aren’t.

Yup beautiful that's what I said . She's very controlling.

So right. I agree with everything you said

Right. But she kept saying your beautiful your beautiful so he can't be friends with you no more

First of all fuck her cause she is jealous and it’s still fresh to him. Overtime the marriage will dissolve itself cause he’ll get sick of her. Or she’ll do some unforgivable shit. (Excuse my French)

she’s too insecure and you’re better then me cause I would’ve been all type of petty.

I agree beautiful. Fuck her.

I was petty until she made him Block me on all social media and the phone lmao.

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