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My son was born on 21st November. The last 2 weeks or so he has been soooo clingy day and night. Constantly wants to be on me (hard when I have a 2 year old too) He’s impossible to settle at naps and bed. Waking up loads throughout the evening. His sleep at night has gone to hell too (it wasn’t great before but now it’s another level) anyone else going through similar? I don’t remember his with my first born.

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Any sign of teeth? Xx

he hasn’t got any yet and I can see some bulging in the top gums x

My little one is sooo clingy to dad - I think it’s a bit of separation anxiety and teeth!

20th Nov and SAME !!! I thought it was just because we were due to start nursery and he could sense something was going on but YUP same boat here xx

I think I saw, at this age they start to get separation anxiety. Completely normal it goes as they get older. My little girl is also the 21st of November and she’s just started nursery so has been a little cuddly, and doesn’t like it when I’m not in sight. Absolutely loves nursery btw but I think it’s if she sees me kind of thing

My little one born on 1st Nov has been like this! I can see his top teeth coming through so defo could be teething! He's better now but week bless him he was so clingy wouldn't go to anyone else and just wanted mummy cuddles! X

My daughter was born exactly the same day and yes she has been super clingy!

My little girl is the same. She was born 30th November. She has 6 teeth and my god these last two that have come have been a nightmare. She's all for both me and Dad now, she started going to the childminders as I'm back at work and she was fine when she first started going but now she's getting cranky when she's waking up there and having none of it 😭 I think she has some form of separation anxiety at the minute as well cause I can't be out of her sight or she's screaming at me x

Thanks for the reassurance everyone xx

My son was born the 22nd November, he has separation anxiety cries when he can’t see you and also teeth aswell x

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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