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Me and my boyfriend have just broken up, I’m 26 and I never imagined this for myself. I’m so lost …. Had my 11week and 5 day scan today and we broke up this evening. How do I cope 😞

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Aw im so sorry! Me and my ex broke up when I was around 9/10 weeks and it’s hard, try and surround yourself with people and also take time for you! I don’t have much advice but I’m here if you ever need to chat 💜

Awwn so sorry love 🥹I’m also In same situation! My ex left when I was 7weeks

Thank you for your kind messages, I’m always here to talk to anyone! Just feeling very alone at the minute x

I'm 26 myself and also broke up with the guy at around 12 weeks. I'm so so so grateful to have the rest of my pregnancy to adjust and I'm so happy that my baby girl will come into a stable household composed of me alone having the control over the situation and not having to deal with someone else's 30 year old child (the guy who made me this baby). Sincerely. I was so terrified of being crushed with a baby in my arms, I'm grateful I have time to adjust and welcome a completely new life for me and my baby

I'm not with the baby's father either. Seems daunting at first but if someone doesn't add to your life and baby's life they shouldn't be with us. Coming from a Catholic household it was hard for me to adjust however when they leave let them go!! We'll be fine! Better to be single with a baby than in an unhappy relationship that will end up affecting the baby. You'll be fine darling and so will the baby

If you feel you truly shouldn’t be together, don’t get back with him

Break ups during pregnancy is much better than after PP when you are really dependent on them and this way you know what to expect

Either way it just sucks

Make sure to live where you’ll be most supported, for example move back home while pregnant or you may be stuck after baby is born

You can do this!

So sorry to hear this stay focused on your bundle of joy and all the love they will give you

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.