How do you do it

How do you guys still manage to clean and get shores done as a stay at home mom with a 3 week old breast fed new born who is cluster feeding? I have terrible OCD. My house needs to be clean and I have a tornado boyfriend who literally doesn’t care if there’s a dish in the sink or a crumb on the counter. But it literally sends me in full panic seeing everything a mess. My baby will stay on the boob for an hour and will fall asleep like that. Once I move her she wakes up looking for nipple again. Then stays wide awake. I try to do activities with her to get her tired or let her sit in her little chair I have while I try to clean but she’ll just scream until she doesn’t breathe which sends me into full panic. All she wants to do is cuddle with my boobs. I have animals to also take care of who haven’t been let out all day since I have to take them out on a leash in my front yard. How do you guys do it without feeling like you’re failing?

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Try baby wearing. That's how I get things done and still keep baby calm. There are even ones that she can be in and nurse all while you are hand free to clean and take the animals out

Get a wrap so you can Baby wear!

Tell your boyfriend you need more help and support with household chores. At the bare minimum, he can clean up after himself. It's important to set clear boundaries and have your partner contribute, or you will always find yourself exhausted and holding resentment.

Baby wearing is an option
Make short lists of tasks to complete for a day, so you don't feel overwhelmed. Or do timed cleanups throughout the day. Like take 20 min and do as much as you can in that 20 min twice a day.

Upvote on the baby wearing!!
Being able to fulfill babies needs as well as your own all at once is a life saver!!
Also, try being easier on yourself. 🥺
The dishes can absolutely wait. Your baby needs you, these moments won't last for long, & those dishes are 100% replaceable in the event you decide to chuck them in the 🗑️ anyway. 💁🏼‍♀️
(I've been there. 😆)

Try swapping favors with a friend! If you know anyone willing to come over to help you catch up on chores or to spend time with your LO, let them.
& if your boyfriend doesn't want to contribute, let him pay for a dog walker. 🤪
Maybe he'll change his mind. 💁🏼‍♀️

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