Struggling

Is anyone else finding it really hard atm with their 15/16 month old? I don’t know why but I’m struggling so much and honestly I dread every day because it’s just so hard to keep my LG entertained.

She’s not walking yet and I think that’s part of the problem too. If we’re outside in the garden or at the park I can’t let her down to run around, I have to carry her everywhere.

I don’t have any friends or family nearby so most of the time it’s just me and her in the house all day. I do bath/bed every single night by myself as my partner doesn’t get home til late. Every day is like Groundhog Day and it’s driving me insane.

No toys keep her entertained at all and she’s constantly at my ankles crying and whining for me to lift her up. I can’t get anything done around the house at all. She’s also stopped sleeping through the night and is fighting her naps so I’m exhausted all the time and never get a break.

I’m just finding this age so hard and I feel so guilty because I’m not enjoying motherhood at all.

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Don’t feel guilty. I completely empathise with you and I totally under estimated how hard this stage would be. Everything you describe in your daughters presentation is the same as my son. My saving grace is that I work Monday-Friday so he’s nursery all day during the week. They report that he’s doing great and apparently happy all the time but I assume this is because they do activities all day every day. Which realistically, none of us can do at home when we have a house to run too! My heart goes out to you. I really struggle at the weekends if we have nothing planned and it gets me down sometimes and I was saying to my partner the other night that I actually don’t know how I would cope if I didn’t have work to go to. Hopefully it’s just a phase and when they start walking it will get better. Is nursery an option? Even a day or 2 a week to give you a break? Xx

thanks for replying 🩷 I was only able to go back to work 2 days a week as we couldn’t afford full time childcare, so she does go to a childminder on these 2 days. It probably sounds bad but I wish I could go back full time. Not because I don’t want to see her, but I’m not able to entertain her the entire day and I feel like I’m always in a bad mood and have no patience with her.
It’s like I’m just living the same day over and over again. We live in a very small town so there’s nothing to do other than go for the same walk every day. I can’t stand being in the house atm but obviously we can’t stay out all day every day! Xx

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..