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Lack of pictures and could use some advice

Excuse my rant and pardon my grammar, but I could really use some advice. I’m giving some backstory to help explain everything better.

As soon as I found out I was pregnant I made my wishes known. Something very important to me is having pictures with my daughter. I was promised that I wouldn’t need to ask and that her father would take them for me. That promise wasn’t kept and I’ve brought it up a lot and I feel ignored and unappreciated. I have had many concussions and struggle a lot with memory loss so pictures are the only way to guarantee that I’ll remember all of the sweet and important moments.
Getting pictures in the hospital was really important to me. I was in a lot of pain and breastfeeding wasn’t going well so I was completely exhausted. We also had visitors for hours at a time and I was expected to talk and pretty much act like I didn’t just give birth. So I didn’t have much time (or the energy) to ask about pictures.
For the 2 days I was in the hospital I only got 8 pictures of my daughter and I together.
I was heartbroken, I had expressed my feelings before we went to the hospital. My partner has dozens of pictures with her while in the hospital. I was really upset and I still am. Even now, 3.5 months later I’ve taken hundreds of pictures of her with her dad and other family. I have barely any with her that aren’t selfies. Almost all of them were taken because I asked. I really wanted some unposed pictures of us. I feel so undervalued and like an afterthought. I’m with her all day everyday and yet no one thinks about what I wanted. I wanted to look through the pictures with my daughter and show her all of the things our family did. Now I realize that I’m not going to be in most of them and It really hurts. I want her to know I was there for everything.
Anyways, does anyone have any advice? I’m tired of having to ask for pictures to be taken.