Partners - WE deserve better

I've seen so many posts and comments on here about our partners and how they simply do not understand the toll motherhood takes on us women, and we deserve better!!

The mental load, the decision fatigue, the emotional stability, the post partum depression, anxiety, anger, it's a lot and we need partners to understand that our lives have changed massively, we may grieve our old lives, lose a bit of our identity and the one thing that helps us be the best version and best mum is a supportive partner!

I sometimes find it difficult expressing how I feel especially when it comes to how I feel unsupported and end up sending tik toks from men who understand the mental load!

Any women have tips on how to approach this with the subject with their man?

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The decision fatigue is real. Like mate just fucking tell what to cook for dinner instead of eating 'whatever I fancy', because right now ebf what I fancy is crunchy nut cornflakes

Totally feel this. I'm now a single parent too. The best advice I can give is to tell your partner that they don't need to fully understand what you're going through but that you fully need their support in this xx

A lot of my friends have had babies over the last few years and quite regularly talk/moan/rant about partners and understanding. My husband, knowing this, asked me when I gave birth to my daughter to always go to him with my frustrations and 6 weeks in this open communication is working brilliantly for us. It also works both ways and he will be open with me. I am aware that I am very lucky! X

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