Postnatal Rage?

Anyone else feeling like they want to smash the house up or their fist when the baby won’t settle?
I’ve had to put my son in his bassinet tonight and walk away as he just won’t stop crying. I ended up screaming my head off and smashed both wrists on the kitchen bench so hard they’ve swelled up.
Now I’m sat crying as I feel so guilty that I shouted so loud it scared my baby and he cried even more.
I feel like we’re fine most of the time but then when he screams I just turn into some lunatic.
Am I the only one that is feeling like this? I know it’s probably hormonal but this just isn’t me. I am normally such a calm person.
Would really appreciate no judgement but maybe some support x

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I’d reach out for some help because increased stress can have such an effect on you it could result in a shaken baby, if you’re feeling that much rage off a baby being upset you need help as they don’t cry for nothing

Hey - this is a symptom of post natal rage related to post natal depression, it can be a very taboo area to talk about but a lot of women experience this, I’m sorry this is happening but I would definitely reach out for some help/support. Although you say things are fine most of the time sometimes our minds can just ‘get on with it’ and it builds up until it reaches an outburst like this - you can speak to your GP about it and find some talking therapies, or help with coping mechanisms or you could explore medications to help - as I said it is very common just not talked about much for many reasons so don’t feel bad it’s just important to address it to stop it getting any worse for you or baby 💖💖

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