What are your thoughts on this

So my baby boy is almost 5 weeks, and when I put him down for a nap (when I see his sleepy cues) often he won’t go straight to sleep but will lay there happily looking around and babbling to himself for 5/10mins then nod off
I watch him on the monitor the whole time, and if he ever cries or anything I go in and soothe him, but mostly I just leave him to it because he seems happy.
BUT I do often feel guilty - do you think this is bad?? Or is it a good thing that he can settle himself? Sometimes I go in and talk to him/lay next to him but then when he sees me it takes longer for him to go to sleep…
Just wanting peoples opinions really as I’m torn between mum guilt that he maybe feels abandoned, and pride that he’s such a calm baby!

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I do the same and my boys the same it’s good to promote independent sleep and there happy winding down xx

Thanks ladies, I’m so glad to hear it’s good for him! Here’s hoping it continues

My girl does this sometimes, it can be that she’s actually happier being put down than held, she can lie for up to 30 minutes sometimes just looking round herself before she actually nods off but I just leave her, figure it’s good she can be like that. Other times she must be held/rocked to sleep or she will scream the house down lol so I take the self settling when I get it, and so should you!!

In theory you're not supposed to leave them alone in a room but let's be honest, unless you live in a studio apartment how can you go to the toilet, get food, etc? I leave my baby with a baby monitor and check him as well. Not for long periods but while I do some tasks around the house.

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