3.5 year old all over baby sister

I need some advice my 3.5 year old son absolutely adores his baby sister who is almost 3 months old. However the past week he will not stay out of her face, every time she falls asleep he’s right in her face making noise and waking her up making her cry resulting in her having very short naps and being grumpy at the end of the day. She maybe is able to have one solid nap where he doesn’t bother her but only if we are in the car. I have told him many times she doesn’t like that and it’s not fair to wake her up she needs her sleep but he won’t listen. Resulting in some time to himself away from her so she can have a few minutes of space. Anyone else have a similar issue that can suggest something? I am getting tired of a fussy and over tired baby at the end of the night especially since my husband is working nights and it’s just me and the kids at home.

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I have a 1 week old baby girl and a 5 and 4 year old boys and they’re the same thing. We have to constantly tell ‘em to calm down and let her sleep. It helps that during her wake times we let them hold her (assisted of course) and be near her. But then once she’s nursing and going to sleep we make it a rule that they can’t go on the bed to be near her. Luckily baby girl isn’t bothered by the noise (yet) but maybe some time with his baby sister will help ease him. Also I make it a priority to spend time with the boys when I have the baby down so they don’t feel the need to get my attention while I have their baby sister. 3 years old is still very young to understand personal space it just takes some time and adjusting to things. I hope this helps.

What’s always worked for me is putting the baby to sleep in the room and you two go to the living room.

she sleeps in her bassinet in our room and I close the door. Unfortunately our bedroom door isn’t a solid door it slides and my son can open it and he goes in all the time. Even if I have put her down and i am sitting and playing something with him.

he is super helpful when she’s awake, he likes it when she sits in her chair and watches him play and he shows her all his cars and trucks and things and he talks to her. If I am holding her or feeding her he is always right in her face and on top of me. Even if she’s in our room with the door closed and I am playing with him he will constantly open the door and go in and wake her up when I am spending time with him one on one. I totally understand he’s still young, he doesn’t understand a lot of adults don’t understand personal space either. I am just frazzled and torn between the two of them when my husband leaves for work at 5pm at 6:30pm she’s crying and upset and he’s all over her. So I end up having to hold her and walk around and be constantly moving so she’s up higher and he can’t get in her face as easy but he is extremely loud and will just sit on the floor smile and scream as I walk around so she still can’t sleep.

Okay well another thing I should suggest is to be creative. Block the outside of the door during her nap time with a box or chair or something that makes it harder for him to have access. And also as stated make a rule. He obviously loves his baby sister very much he just needs to learn boundaries. So she can get her sleep it’s still very necessary . Whenever she’s napping and he goes towards the door, just keep redirecting him and let him know she’s sleeping , not right now.I have a 3 year old as well , you’d be surprised how much they understand . Anyways goodluck , you got this.

Child lock your bedroom sliding door. Be firm with your toddler, then immediately distract.
"She's sleeping but we could read a book!"
Or color, paint, bake something, build with blocks whatever they like to do

I read that you have a sliding door to the room where she sleeps and your toddler goes in whenever he wants even when you’ve instructed not to. Do you have a baby gate you can put in that door frame area that he cannot climb over? Or could you try using the childproofing lock things that keep toilets and cabinets closed so he cannot slide the door?

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