Rant

Ladies I’m struggling with this fussy phase. I can usually calm my son down easily but he’s inconsolable and my partner still isn’t confident in soothing him. I spend all day from the moment I open my eyes looking after my fussy baby and my partner works. He finishes work and plays with baby while I make tea, clean up and start my babies bedtime routine. He usually does the last feed of the night but I’m so frustrated. He wakes up and goes the gym, goes to meditate and then goes to work. Finishes work and goes for a run or can just chill out with baby while I sort the evening stuff. I have 0 time to myself and although he thanks me for what I do I wish I had his freedom to do what I want when I want. I told him last night I’m finding it really hard and he said I should find time to do me stuff. Baby is so fussy that when he goes down for a quick nap I’m so exhausted I just want to sit down. My partner WFH and as soon as I get a break he asks me for a cuppa or breakie. I would massively appreciate him making me a cup of tea. This is a pointless post I just needed someone to rant to x

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I’d suggest at a weekend going out for an hour or so and leaving baby with your partner. Your partner will never learn to settle baby unless he has to. Once he can do this you can pop out a bit more - to the gym or for a coffee or whatever you want to do.

And tell him to make his own cuppa!

I’m in a very similar situation with the partner side of things. Are you able to allocate one evening per week for just you? It might be an idea to try and get him to be a bit more hands on with the baby in terms of learning to settle etc just because it’s beneficial for the baby and you too?!

I’d say your baby is probably fussy because if the heat, recent vaccinations, development leap stage….. I understand it can all take its toll on you though! I get it xxx

My partner works 4 nights on and 4 nights off so he works all night and then has to sleep all the following day, he is out the house for 16 hrs a night, leaves at 4pm and back 8am the following morning it's so hard doing its for 5 days and 4 nights by myself but the 4 days he has off he doesn't take any time for himself, if the football is on he will watch it with baby but he's always keen for me to get a break like taking a bath etc it's very hard for us to get a break but it's important to offer each other that time to be alone for a while, your partner should be taking over and letting you take that break

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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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How would you react?