Trigger warning... ex has suicidal thoughts

My ex has become a completely different person than the one I was married to. He was a caring person who cared way too much what people thought of him and was very homophobic, and now he gets in fights, verbally attacks me any chance he gets, and sleeps with men and women. He was and might still be on steroids. He didn't want more kids but he's trying to get his gf pregnant because "she deserves a kid".... he has expressed suicidal thoughts a lot in the past few months and is in therapy. He claims this is because he can't see our daughter because he molested her but he denies the accusation.
Anyway, I'm starting to worry that he may try to hurt me, my bf, or my daughter just to hurt me. It's like he gets off on the verbal attacks so it seems logical to me that he'd try to hurt me in other ways too.
Anyone deal with similar issues or have thoughts on this?

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I have never been in this situation but move area, change number and restrict the amount of content you put online. Do not let him have access to your child. You have a duty to protect her, yourself and your boyfriend.

Completely block all contact from him.

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@Lesley he lives about 500 miles away but his family is here so I worry about when he visits home... I've already blocked him on social media and ignored phone calls. He doesn't know anything about my bf except his first name. I also changed jobs. Can't move or anything til the divorce is final... I just wish the attorney would get off his butt and push these charges through for the molestation... cuz then he will be in jail

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