Baby staying the night with grandparents

My LG has only just turned 7 months. Trying to sort childcare for when I return to work. I've asked my mother in law to have her on a Monday just to give my mum a break as she will have her the rest of the week.
But my MIL is desperately pushing for her to stay Sunday to Monday. Due to the distance between us in Torquay and her in Moretonhampstead. About a 50 min drive.
I personally feel she's too young. I would prefer to wait until she's over 1 to have her stay away for a night. I feel bad always saying no, and then I feel like I'm being the bad guy, but she is my baby.

Is this just me being over protective first time mum or should I just let her do it.

What ages were your little ones staying over somewhere else.

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If you’re going to be the one dropping off and picking up then I don’t see why she should have a problem with that! But if she’s doing the drop and pick up I would sort of understand as she doesn’t want to have 2 hours of driving every Monday

Ultimately it’s your decision so she should respect that! I haven’t had my little one yet but my mum will be having her sometimes overnight from after 6 months old not before but not every week just if we need her to xx

it'll be her driving. It's not the driving thing that makes her want her overnight.
She's been trying since she was a week old 🤣
She's just desperate to have her overnight

My son is 18 months old, and I still wouldn't let him stay somewhere overnight. You should do it when you're ready. I'm near newton abbot, and my mum is in Exeter. It's about 20 minutes away, and I still won't do it 😄

I personally wouldn’t leave my baby overnight without me unless I had to for some reason. I’m having my second baby in February and my son will be 16 months and staying overnight with my parents while we’re in the hospital. I fully trust my parents but I still don’t like the idea of leaving my son overnight without me yet

Id have jumped at the chance for my son to stay overnight somewhere else, he woke every 1.5 hours all night, every night 🤣 but i couldnt burden anyone else with that, so he is 2 years old and has never stayed anywhere without me.

My Daughter is 19 months and never stayed overnight anywhere. And dont plan to until she is much much older.

My little boy is 18 months old but hasn't stayed anywhere overnight yet, although I know my Mum wouldn't mind having him overnight. I'm not sure when I will be comfortable with him staying out overnight to be honest.

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