Nursery

I am very fortunate that I am going back to work 3 days [10hour shifts]

My mother will look after my boy 2 days and mother in law the other day...

However, my husband is not happy he said he needs to interact with other kids and nursery is good for him.

I think we are very lucky, as I will not have a nursery bill and my boy gets on great with my mum.

Anybody not taking there's to nursery?

He is 11months old.

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Not taking to nursery and not needing it. Baba goes to lots of baby groups etc so no need x

Thats great 😊, my mum will take him to classes and swimming etc. On my days off iwill do the same. X

Im planning to send mine when he is two. I think he is too young to go atm personally but i would like him to learn to play with other children when he is a bit bigger.
I personally also dont feel comfortable leaving my 10m old with people i dont know and is my baby seems to be a walking accident (altho he cant walk yet). I will only leave him with people i trust
I work two days a week and my mum with have him for 6 hours and my husband will pick him up from there after he finishes work and take him home to do dinner xx

I think nurserys are great for kids to adapt before school. Theres no need to go now, i wish i didnt have to send my boy yet. Their routines etc aren't made to benefit babies either. The one long nap is disgned for older toddlers. I think ur doing what feels right for use

My baby isn’t going to nursery until next year!

My baby isn’t going to nursery and I’m going back to work full time, family are helping and she will have plenty integration with families kids and baby groups, we also feel very lucky to be able to work without childcare bills x

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