Paranoia. Anxiety living alone with toddlers...

My anxiety is really bad. I recently kicked my bd out bc he was way too disrespectful . Thought its peaceful...flipside is I have crazy anxiety. CrZy anxiety of break ins and that I can't protect my kids.

Bc I have 2 toddlers just smothering me and all over me.. I feel if anything disrespectful happen I would just accept defeat bc theyre in tye way and compromising.

Idk what to do abt my anxiety. I wasn't able 2 sleep at night.

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Is there anyway your bd would be respectful enough to maybe stop by at bed time to make sure everything’s ok every day?

A few things. Get and install a ring camera so you can see anyone that comes to the door. Install them around the house outside if you have multiple entry points. Also get extra locks on doors and windows and you could even install an alarm system on the windows too that would alert the police if someone were to enter the house.

Then, buy and learn how to use a gun and pepper spray. Take a training course if you have never shot one, and get one of those bedside lock boxes that you just have to press the combination to open. Kid proof but easy for you to grab if ever needed. Honestly just having it will most likely make you feel 1000x better. ❤

One tip for women living alone is to leave a pair of man's work boots or shoes by the front door so it doesn't look like you live by yourself.

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