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October 2022 Babies 🇺🇸

Need help, baby hates her crib and only sleeps in our bed

(To preface this, we share a room with our LO, we’re been staying with my mother in law since before baby was born and there’s no available room for her to have her own)

My baby is generally a good sleeper, she worried me when she was about a month old bc she would sleep six hours uninterrupted at night, but now it’s become so bad.
We never could get her to fall asleep in her own crib successfully, she did it a handful of times when we could still swaddle her but they were rare. She’s always slept better with either me or her dad so we would just end up cuddling her in our bed when she would wake up in the middle of the night crying and then move her when she’s out again. She never learned to self soothe either so it’s all just compiled into recently where she only falls asleep in our bed or in my arms, and transferring her over to her crib will work for a handful of hours and then she’s standing up and either crying or wide awake and happy. If she stays in bed all night with my husband and I she sleeps like the dead, but otherwise it’s a total nightmare. She’s also started to revert to wanting a bottle during the night and will cry until she starts to go hoarse unless we give it to her.
Everything I’ve read online is for parents that have a nursery for their LO where they can step away and rest separately but I don’t have that luxury right now, and unfortunately won’t for the foreseeable future. She will cry the second you put her in her crib and will just work herself up to the point where she’s completely red in the face and inconsolable until one of us steps in and takes her out.
On top of all of this, I work at an Amazon warehouse and I got tricked into transferring to a 3:30pm to midnight shift when I used to work during the day Monday through Friday. I now work Tuesday to Saturday and because of this I can’t participate in her bedtime routine anymore and I’m not even there at all, so I’m sure that that isn’t helping at all either. I’m trying to revert back to my old schedule but Amazon is notoriously bad at handling that so I’m stuck where I am.

Please help, any advice is greatly appreciated, both my husband and I are completely out of ideas on what to do