Just a bit annoyed

how okd is he?

he's 11 so isn't any trouble mostly sits in his room on the xbox or his phone

then no i probably wouldnt be annoyed because it isnt any extra hassle, you said you were annoyed because you were hoping for a chilled day but by the sounds of it the 11 year old will just chill anyway, so i dont think itll be too much of a problem, maybe its more the struggle of the 12 week old youre struggling with x

No wouldn't bother me !

I didn't mean for it to come across as me saying I was annoyed that I wasn't getting a chilled day, just annoyed that it's just sprung on me on the day, like I'd feel awful if I'd made plans that didn't include SS

yeahh i know what you mean, i do get it when its sprung on you, but the way i think about it with everything is i compare it with my children, obviously you only have a 12 week old so its hard to compare right now, but imagine your child was older and something unexpected happened when you had plans, illness, friends cancelling, home early from a club you know literally anything would you then be the same level annoyed as you are in this situation, thats how i deal with all these issues in my head to stop me from thinking of it biasedly, its real hard xx

thats a good way to look at it thank you for that I'll try keep that in mind 🤍 like you said to begin with its probably more the fact that I'm struggling with my 12 week old xx

i know how it feels, we have the same, just sprung stuff on from the kids mum, but i have an 11 year old too and if he decided not to go to his dads last minute or back home early when i werent planning then itd be the same thing and i cant get annoyed lol 😂 babys are hard work and they usually cloud your judgement with a lot, maybe ask your husband to take the boy and the baby out for a few hours together so you get a break? may make you feel better? xx

I would get annoyed as like a previous comment said, you might only have dinner in for the 3 of you not the 4 😂 I’ve had it the other way round too where I’ve done dinner for SD and she turns up having already eaten. Like where’s the communication 😂

It was probably only sprung up on him as-well. But if he knew and only told me that day I would be annoyed because of food shopping, getting beds ready etc x

it's pretty much every time, that's the annoying part, dunno if he just forgets to say to me and only remembers on the day or day before, think today was different as the schools were off but it just got to me this morning x