Happy Rant 🤍✨ I'm getting MARRIED 🥳

Accidental pregnancy literally a few weeks into dating, but at 22 (me) and 26 (him) we decided to keep the baby. I'm currently about 20 weeks along, and he's proven to me every day that this is right. I've been engaged to someone else before, and planning my wedding then made me really anxious. I had cold feet from the moment we got engaged, and I ended up leaving when he showed his true colors. This time around, I have zero nerves at all. It's so right. We were truly made for each other, and we are over the moon happy about our relationship and our daughter. Our families are both in full support and can see how well we work together.

We're getting courthouse married pretty much as soon as my wedding band arrives and my shoes arrive. (We'll have a vow renewal type ceremony for friends and family that's fancier and nicer in a year or two.) People know we're engaged and going to get married on paper before the baby has arrived, but they don't know when. I know if I tell anyone sooner they'll want to come, and we just want our parents to be there and maybe siblings if they can make it. We want to save money for the baby instead of spending it on a wedding, as even a cheap wedding would be out of budget for us at the moment.

Oh, and I thrifted this dress and veil for $6.25 at my late grandfather's favorite thrift store on the anniversary of my mom's best friend's passing who used to go thrifting with her all the time. Talk about meant-to-be. 🤍 my mom also grabbed some elephant themed baby items that were 75% off, and my grandpa's nickname for me was elephant :') he was very strict roman catholic so it means the world to me that it seems if he's out there somewhere, he approves of this. It's just so right. I'm so glad I will be bringing my daughter into the world united with my soon-to-be husband. Nothing about our relationship has been traditional, but that's life, and that's us. 🤍 I love him so much.

Okay happy rant over haha just had to type that out *somewhere*

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So happy for you! Reading this just sends me a warm feeling all throughout❤️ You could tell your baby will be so loved, congrats!🌸

Congratulations!! Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s too good to be true or that it won’t last! This sounds so much like my story with my husband :) we accidentally got pregnant a few weeks into dating and now we’ve been happily married for five years still just as much in love. When it’s meant to be it’s meant to be ❤️ I also love the dress!

thank you! 🥺 we truly have a village of support from both sides of the family, and I'm so grateful for that. It could have gone either way, but everyone has been so supportive and amazing 😭💕

congrats on the happy marriage!! 🤍 also I agree. Nobody who knows us personally has been negative, just strangers, so it's easy to ignore the hate. Anyone who knows us can see how much we care about each other and how well we communicate. Even though it's only been a short time, we've already grown so much together, and I can't wait to continue building our life together.

Also thank you! I really love the dress too. I just ordered some shoes off Depop that go with it really well and have a nice blocky heel so I won't be stumbling around lol

You look stunning! Congratulations. ♥️

Congratulations!! Also, you look so much like my sister it scared me! I was like WHAT IS SHE DOING ON HERE!! 🤣

thank you!! ❤️

thank you! 💕

lmaooo surprise 🤣 imagine finding out your sister was knocked up like this 😭 that would be wild. Anyways thanks haha

and straight 🤣🤣🤣

HAHAHA yeah that would've been quite a shock then

my husband and i also have the same age gap but he just turned 27 haha, congratulations!

oh wow we do look quite similar

it's a good age gap in my opinion 🥰 almost the same as my sister and her husband too!

i agree! i always dated older men because i knew from a young age i wanted to be a young mom and house wife so it’s nice to have someone who’s a few what’s ahead of you so that they’re already working into their careers lol

Sending love and hugs! So happy for you

Lol CONGRATS I felt like I was reading my own story except I’m 21 and he’s 25 but it’s literally the exact samething! instead of a wedding I decided to do courthouse and we did it before the baby came too and I have zero regrets, I’m sure you won’t either!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

Congratulations!

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