Vent

Just needing to vent. I’m a mom of two with my 3rd otw and I have no feeling towards this baby and it hurts. I loved my babies from the moment I found out about them but with this one it’s different. I’m not sure if it’s a reason behind it but I wish I was more connected to this baby. It’s so much going on so I can’t just focus on this pregnancy like I did my other two and I went through so much during ny pregnancy with my 2nd and after as well especially with her dad. Me and my youngest 2 dad aren’t on good terms so it’s a lot of emotions and feelings right now and I wish I could just enjoy my last pregnancy and feel some type of connection to this baby😪

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Have you tried journaling about your emotions to try and process the past? It sounds like you're holding onto a lot, and it's making it hard to connect with the present. There's no shame in how you're feeling; life goes by so quickly sometimes, and it can feel like you're just going through the motions.

Something that helps me connect with my baby is using stretch mark cream once a day. Even if it doesn't do anything for me in the end, it's a solid minute or two that I just breathe deeply and rub my belly every day. For those few minutes, I'm fully in the moment and mindful of my pregnancy and my baby, no matter what the rest of the day holds.

I use to journal, and have thought of getting back into it. I just question is it worth it. The bonding with baby I can definitely try. Feelings my LO kicks helps a little and going to appointments knowing the baby is okay changes how I feel a little🤍

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