Baby not settling after feeds

Hey guys. Our baby boy is waking up quite a lot during the night for feeds, we're feeding him, changing him and having a cuddle. But then when we put him back in his next to me, he takes agesss to get to sleep. Does anyone elses baby do this? It's so tiring :(

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My baby boy is the same atm, he’s only 6 weeks old though and we think he’s suffering from wind 😭

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Yes my daughter has been doing this for the past 2 nights. I do the nappy change, feed hold her for 20-30mins then she looks like she might be going to sleep i put her down and she screams. Ive lost the will to live

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Aw ours is just over 2 weeks. Aw yeah possibly. Have you bought infacol? We're using this for our boy at the minute. Think it's helping x

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haha yeah exactly the same for us. I'm not sure if it's the heat still but i will say a dummy seems to help a little bit. How old is your little one? X

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aww bless him. Yes we’ve just bought Infacol started it yesterday! How soon do you give it before a feed? X

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My girl is 3 weeks today and is exactly the same from the day they are born they have growth spurts every couple of weeks and it causes them to be clingy, feeding more often, irritable. I've resorted to come sleeping on the sofa as that's the only way she will sleep.

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Haha :) we literally give it before we give him the bottle. He loves the taste of it haha x

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Ahh, this explains more then. Tbh i was thinking that, he sleeps better in his moses basket so may have to sleep on the sofa if needed. Crazy what we have to do hey haha x

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ok fab, me too my baby licks his lips 😭😂 xx

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haha i don't blame them. It smells amazing 🥰 xx

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oh yes definitely, when people used to say sleep when she sleeps... Do it honest to god. My house looks like a bomb has gone off but atm I don't really care as I'm sleep deprived. X

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Yeah haha. I find it hard to sleep during the day but i need to do it more tbh. Finding the days are flying at the minute as well so feel like i'm running out of time haha. Yeah ours does too, dying to get it sorted but like you say we're living on a couple hours of sleep haha xx

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she's sleeping now but I'm going to go have a warm cup of tea and some toast and then may look at my uni work that is due in tomorrow but haven't got the head space to do it this morning so will wait till my other half comes home from work he can take over and I'll either choose to sleep or do work. Xx

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My little girl is also the same. 6 weeks old. I think she is defo suffering from wind and she has her legs up and generally seems uncomfortable lying down. I started her on infacol today to see if this helps. Also they have a development leap at this age. So lots going on x

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my daughter is 18 days old i have kind of tried to introduce a dummy so i make sure shes fed and then when shes sleepy tried to give her a dummy but she refuses. But i know im suppose to wait 4 weeks before introducing because im breast feeding.

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