Loss of a mother

My dad passed in 2020 who I was so close to and my baby looks the spitting image of him! It’s so tough but it’s good to ride the waves. Always here for a chat xx

Thank you and sorry to hear about your dad. Always here for a chat too. As much as my partner is very supportive, I think it’s hard for him to fully understand how it feels xx

I lost my mum in 2021 and my little one is 4 months. I gave my little girl the same middle name as my mum and we talk about her nana to her all the time! I had a close but complicated relationship with my mum which makes it difference as she wasn’t so much the maternal type so I know I would’ve have gotten the typical help from her as a grandparent. But It’s definitely hard her never meeting my little one or sharing every day things with her. I think the main thing is to let yourself feel the emotions, there’s no time limit on grief 🩷

My mum walked out on me when I was 11. Although she is alive, I'm 28 now and have lived without her in my life for 17 years. I know the circumstances are different, but I do get upset that I haven't got a mum/mum figure in my life to go to. On the other hand though I feel so proud of myself raising 2 babies without that ❤️ Just know your mum would be so proud of all that you've achieved and she'd be so fond of your little one ❤️ xx

Not my mum, but My dad passed away in 2021. My little boy (my first) is the spitting image of him. We were incredibly close.
My mum started dating someone this year and it’s super tough, particularly as I welcomed my son.
I got married in 2021 and I feel like my dad has missed all these milestones. He would have have absolutely loved my little boy and it breaks my heart knowing he won’t meet him. I will make sure he knows him though.
I find myself feeling resentful some days that it’s my little boy who has missed out, not that I would wish that on my nephews and nieces but it makes me sad that they will have memories of grandad and my boy won’t. That sounds selfish and I don’t mean it that way, I just feel sad for him. I live in the hope that he is watching us and smiles everyday watching my son grow and learn new things! Xx

My mum passed away from cancer New Years Eve 2022. My LG was her first grandchild.

My mother in law passed away last December. We lived with her for several years so were quite close as far as in laws go. It hit me the most when planning my baby shower as she adored those kind of events. I am not particularly religious but she was so I like to think of her looking down at us from heaven.

I had my first baby in Jan 21, My dad died May 21, my mum died July 21. I have just had my second, and have never felt so strongly this feeling of 'I want my mum'.
My partner has both of his parents and neither are particularly involved and it makes me so angry and sad knowing my parents don't have the opportunity that they are wasting. Every day is physically painful in my heart as dramatic as that sounds. I'm reminded that they aren't here everyday by my brother who is 14 (11 at time they died) who now lives with me.

Thank you all for sharing, none of it sounds dramatic! I fully know that feeling, the actual physical pain of it in your heart ❤️