Venting

I just need to vent. Every since we moved in the same building as my brother in law there has been never ending arguments with my husband over absolutely nothing. Idk if I'm in the wrong or him. I'm a SAHM & his brother is basically a SAHD. Im in the house most of the time unless there's an event or school days for pick & drop off. My husband feels like I need to stop making myself available because I won't get the same in return. Mind you I literally don't do anything I probably looked after his two kids 5 times at the most & I've been here 4 months. Also his brother has a wife but she works.

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I really don't understand what I'm doing wrong. Am I supposed to be just a meany. Like I know how to say no if I can't mentally do something & my husband works 5 days a week sometimes over night so everything at home I'm basically doing myself.

I was informed to wait one cycle before starting to try again (though I miscarried between 6-7 weeks). It took me two months of trying to get pregnant after miscarriage.

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Your not in the wrong hun! I think your partner is overreacting x

Sounds like a bit of jealousy maybe? I’m not sure how you’re “making yourself available” when you’re just a SAHM. It’s a great thing for your kids to have playtime and interactions with their cousins. I don’t see how you could be doing anything wrong by being family oriented.

I really didn't want to think that but that's what it's starting to feel like.

what I'm doing I would do with anyone. That's just how I am & I literally learned it from his mother

He may have some harbored reservations about his brothers that you aren’t aware of. Especially with the comment “you won’t get the same in return”. I’ve noticed that a lot with male siblings! Ultimately it’s on him and his brother to get over that hump, he shouldn’t fault you for being caring.

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