Mother Inlaw doesn’t like me 😂

I’ll try to make this short 😂 So I’ve been with my bf for 7 going on 8 years ! High school sweet hearts .. my mother in law was never fawn of me but we kept in cordial over time I didn’t really like her because she was always drunk and had always treated my bf like shit his whole life. So fast forward to march 2022 I found out I was pregnant and it triggered her the next 9 months to pretend to like me for god knows what but at the time I just thought her being a grandparent and knowing I wasn’t going anywhere was gonna change her ways for me she was nice to me my whole pregnancy and catered to me. Fast forward again to Dec 4 the day I gave birth she acted like I didn’t exist and she stopped liking me. Mind you two days before that we went bowling to try to get the baby moving because I was suppose to be due. We’ve been no contact my sons whole 9 months of life she’s only got to see him 3 times within this time becusse when she came to visit once in Dec I stayed in my room and I think she got the hint I wasn’t comfortable or going to be cordial so she hasn’t came since ! She came one last time in April but for 10 min to help my bf bring his car from her house. But now I’m stressing that since the holidays are coming up my bf or his family is going to force my hand in going to the family events where she’s at or make my son go without me and he’s strictly breastfed and I don’t trust his mom around my son she’s passed multiple boundaries and has disrespected me as a mother. Idk what to do ..ps my bf told me the reasons she pretended to like me was to make sure the baby was okay and I wasn’t stressed and now that he’s here i basically don’t matter 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

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That’s really strange. Sounds toxic. Christmas is about family, you guys have your own family now, that should be the priority. Start planning a nice Christmas for you 3!

yea I agree ! Me and him get into it because of how his toxic mother and grandparents feel about not seeing the baby yet they put themselves in this position plus he feels some type of way because my family is in his life 🤷🏽‍♀️ I just feel like they manipulate him into feeling bad but they don’t care about my son it’s all to make them look good ! They are social media grandparents and great grandparents. They live 15 min away from us and my family lives 1 away and still come visit his family expects the baby to come to them like no

I am in the exact same situation. Except I would always put on a fake smile and be cordial unless they were blatantly disrespectful to my face. But in laws know they’re welcome at my house but have never come except for one hour the week baby was born. But..If you trust your partner and they are not awful people then I would give father of child explicit instructions and allow him to take your son for 3-5 hours (in between feedings) and supervise his visits with grands. If you’re still uncomfortable with that, tell them you don’t want your son away from you until he can talk. You just have to decide what you’re actually comfortable with which I know has been hard for me but the truth of the matter is they are never going away 😞

Absolutely not. If people want to see your child, they should come. Much easier than you packing a bag and whatever else just to go down the road when alls they need to do is hop in a car!

Plan something nice, morning for presents, early dinner and a Christmas movie and hot chocolate. If people want to visit then yeh, but maybe ask for it to be Christmas Eve at 6pm and put the baby to bed at 7pm so their time is limited😂

I wish ! It’s literally a whole mess ! My family does Christmas on Christmas Eve because we’re Mexican and his grandmas birthday is on Christmas Eve and she’s very selfish and does too much for her birthday last year she tried to see if my 3 WEEK old can come for her birthday just for pictures like girl no ! So I know she’s gonna try it this year ! Then his family celebrates Christmas the day of Christmas ! So she expect people to be at her house two days in a row 🤨

honestly I don’t trust his mom at all ! She always talked trash about my breastfeeding how it wasn’t gonna be enough for my son even on the day I gave birth to him and they were teaching me how to feed him ! Then she kissed him when he was three weeks old after being told not to by her son ! She’s a very selfish person and I just don’t trust her ! She doesn’t speak to me or respect me ! She’s the type to send him back in clothes because she doesn’t like what I had him in or what I packed for him or feed him stuff without mg knowledge

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Blw

Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭