Am I wrong for feeling this way? Do I address it ?

Either he’s projecting (telling you you do something when it’s him) or something else: you didn’t hear him, something else was going on, etc. I doubt you’d forget him having to have surgery. And if so, apologize accordingly. Otherwise, keep trying to communicate 🤷‍♀️

Sounds likes he's doing tit for tat. It seems he wants you to understand how it feels to be given fragments of information; opposed to all necessary information. It's not very mature of him to do, but I'm guessing he feels like repeating himself is getting him nowhere.

So now he beckons you with the same confused annoyed feeling he gets when he feels like youre lazy in regards to information sharing. This is his attempt to show you how frustrated he is in hopes for change.

right. I wouldn’t forget something like that. Now if he mentioned long ago, yes maybe but even if so I’m confused on why he wouldn’t bring it up again. That’s important. And yea, I am. Or at least I’m trying but he just pulled something like this again. So I’m over it. I’m about ready to keep my distance from him

true. But he’s not the type to do that. He doesn’t like the tit for tat thing. So I hope that not it, if so it just isn’t cool. Right wouldn’t be mature at all. He just did it again with something else, so now I feel exactly how he must feel when I’m like that and I hate it. I don’t do things purposely though but now that I’m feeling how I am. Im about ready to keep my distance.

I genuinely think that's what it is. He wants you to feel how he's been feeling...
For him to go to these lengths he must have felt very frustrated. Don't distance yourself. Just talk to him and tell him you understand how he must have felt. Keeping your distance is only going to keep this cycle going

possibly. Has to be at this point. And if it is what he’s doing, I see now for sure, it’s not cool smh. I’ma try not to, but that’s partly what my mind is telling me to do.. distance self, and cut bck on communication. Yes that’s true, smh I’ll try talking to him.. idk when though

he left town a couple days ago and didn’t say anything until he was literally leaving smh. And has not been saying much to me since. A couple txts but that’s about it. He hmu yesterday asking what I was up to , I was gonna ignore him but didn’t bcuz I was glad to hear from him. I asked what he was doing, he instead told me where he was (finally😑) but that lead to me letting him knw that’s not what I asked and he could tell I was being smart with my other txts after. He txtd me later on to ask how I was and that was it. Haven’t heard from him since, not even today smh

Oh my gosh. He obviously misses you too. I feel like you both miss eachother but because you're both frustrated with eachother the communication is cynical and passive aggressive.

Honestly if you just send him a msg saying you understand where he was coming from and you don't expect things to go back to how they were straight away but you you're going to try better in terms of communication, you will most likely get a better response from him. He needs to know that the penny has dropped for you or else he's gonna keep on doing it.

I'm not gonna lie I've done the same thing he's done. Acted the same way my partner was in order to make them understand. Not a good choice but I did it. I really just wanted them to see how they were making me feel; and that with a little bit of consideration everything could be okay. I've also had a partner do to me something that annoyed them and trust me I got the msg. I really get it. I hope you guys work it out because this small small thing could escalate xx

I hope he does, I’m sure your right about that though. Because I really miss him, he always expresses that he misses me. And I hate that I haven’t heard from him today. Yea I’ll talk to him about the communication thing, I just don’t knw when smh. Me not hearing from him just makes me not even wanna bother him, idk what’s going on.. but it’s upsetting me. He always communicates, the only time he went without tlkn to me was when I wanted to just give up on everything and told him to be done with me. He stopped tlkn to me for like 2 days because he was upset at me for even suggesting that.

Oh wow. How did things go for you? But yea not a good choice at all lol. And thank you, I hope so as well. He’s so caring and has showed me so much love, now that my feelings are so into it, I’d hate for things to end but I’m quick to just give up at times and keep it moving smh.

someone on a different post I made today said he’s probably cheating and that I needed to be done, said it was red flags in reference to me saying how he went out of town and barely been communicating with me. But I knw he wouldn’t do such thing, yet now it’s in my head as well smh lol

How dare they insinuate he's cheating. 😤

Don't suggest that he be done with you. For him that's gonna translate to... You would rather be done with him than work on this minor problem. He's gonna feel rejected and that your pride is more important than him.

With me, when my actions were copied by my partner to let me know how it felt. I did change... I felt the anxiety and hopelessness they felt and started communicating better.


When I copied my partners actions to let them know how I felt (different partner)their behaviour changed in time but wasn't consistent. But this particular partner was narcissistic asshole 😂x