Life’s been so hard

I’m really struggling lately. I’m doing pregnancy alone the baby’s dad doesn’t want involvement. I’m having more hospital visits due to baby having a heart variant and my mum has been my support system but she has just been diagnosed with cancer.

Life can be so cruel. I haven’t done anything to prepare for baby and I find it so hard to do anything anymore or be happy, I try when I’m around mum but the rest of the time I’m just a mess.

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I’m so sorry you feel like this and I’m so sorry for your situation. I pray that your mum will make it through this and so will baby with the will of God. Stay strong for your baby as you have someone depending on you now. Take care of yourself at the very least with pregnacare and exercise regularly maybe you can make it a hobby to take your kind off some things I know it could be hard to get up and get on with it but is women are strong and you will do this!

thank you, I don’t have the words to draft a proper reply but I’m grateful for your response, God bless you & your family

Message if you’d like a friend to talk to :)

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. I really do hope your mum pulls through.

The dad situation can be a blessing. I had my first child alone and honestly, the experience was a breeze. Can be lonely for sure but once you have your baby in your arms, nothing else matters.
Just try to ensure you have the bare basics to leave hospital at least.
Car seat, outfit, nappies, moses basket and bottles and milk if you aren't breast feeding.
The rest you can pick up as and when.

If you want to chat at all, I'm.here xxx

I’m so sorry about this. I’m a single mum too. I’ve got a 13 year old and expecting another one in November. Both dads are absent. My mum lives abroad. Send me a message if you wanna talk. ❤️

So sorry you’re going through a really tough time right now. Sending lots of love and if you need anything just shout!x

Send me a message I feel like we are in a similar position (my baby also has a heart condition)

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