How do you get your little ones to bed? For both naps and the night? My boy is nearly 1 and exclusively breastfed, he’s always fed to sleep and im wanting him to be able to go to bed with my partner sometimes as it’s all me. Any advice?

He won’t take a bottle and tbh don’t want him to have one now as I’ve only just got him drinking from an open cup. He loves breast for comfort and needs that milk but I would love to give milk then my partner help. No clue how to start. Don’t want to do cry it out method. I’ll miss the contact naps but he’s just never in his own space and I start the second year of my course soon and need the spare time

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Hi 😊 I was in same position as you… ebf, feed to sleep, contact naps. We went 10+ months with TERRIBLE sleep and ultimately resorted in the ‘cry it out’ method. It only took about 3 nights (which got progressively better) and now he’s put down awake for naps and the night in his cot and happily goes to sleep (and sleeps through!) No more night feeds! Completely changed our lives. You’re not a bad parent for doing it. We always said we wouldn’t but we’d tried other methods that didn’t work. Sometimes you have to do what’s going to be hard for potentially the best outcome. Totally up to you of course but that’s my honest advice! X

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Have you tried feeding him just before bedtime, then feeding him a little longer before bedtime and carry on until he is used to feeding about 30 mins before bedtime? It will need to be just you that does this transition so it’s not too many changes, but I’ve heard that works for the ladies at my breastfeeding support group! Then once he is used to that you can implement your partner helping as it won’t be such a change? There are lots of ways that don’t involve CIO methods!😊

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