I don’t hate my MIL but I don’t trust her with my child

100% feel this way and even though we do have her watching him from time to time. It gives me such freaking anxiety even at 20 months old. She has no respect for our parenting but for a while we had to use her weekly when I first went back to work. Now we’re slowly backing down because our childcare situation has changed.

I have similar situation and just said it straight away that as a mum keeping the baby for 9 months being in pain I don’t feel comfortable with in laws although he opposed but I said when I feel ready I will see but I dont want to right now and just call my family for help,, I know it’s difficult but just stand your ground you are the mum father didn’t give birth..

I feel the same. I get on with her fine but she’s a bit too… airy fairy (for lack of a better term) for me to happily leave my baby in her care. I have a fear she will forget she’s looking after my Daughter 😂 she’s just so forgetful and almost on a different planet. I definitely don’t want her driving with her, it scares me. I won’t ever leave her alone with baby. Her Dad agrees with me which cements the decision in my head!

We were similar to this. My husband kept pushing for his parents to have our really small baby, it made me feel so anxious and stressed, and was so unnecessary for him to do that to me/all of us! Just tell him no. We won’t be leaving our daughter with anyone anytime soon and she’s over a year. There really isn’t a rush, follow your instincts xx

Definitely feel the same way! My husband feels the same as I do though. He and I live very differently from both our families and are worried about how his parents wouldn’t think about things (like what’s appropriate to feed baby). We had a whole thing about screen time with them too and now are less trusting with how they’d babysit.

I feel like a lot of women feel this way, I've even seen it with them feeling that way about their own mothers in some instances. I think if you phrase it to your husband like this is all a very new experience for you, your baby is so tiny, and you really just feel protective of them because that's your most important job. I feel like it's always okay to say that you're not comfortable with something especially when it comes to your child, I hope he can understand that.

Im that way with everybody, I dont trust any of our family to respect boundaries. I told my mom we would think about letting him stay with her at 6 months but she wants to let him sleep in the bed with her and thats not happening because we don't even cosleep, when I told her "no, we don't do that, I will bring his pack n play", she actually said at mimis he can 😒

omg I think I would lose it🤯

that’s exactly how I feel!

100% normal mother instincts! Always trust them ❤️