DIDDIES! (Pacifier, dummy)

Hey. I don’t have any advice regarding dummies as my girl never had one. And I also am not a fan of the die hard ‘cry it out’ method. However we did the Ferber method which involves leaving baby just for a couple of mins to begin with and then increasing to time period. Yes they cry and it’s heartbreaking to hear that and watch on the monitor but it took only a few days and we now put her down awake. Every now and again we get a whimper but generally she just talks herself to sleep now. We did this because getting her to settle was taking almost an hour and we didn’t have any time to ourselves to just relax.
It might not be for you but it’s an option.
On the other hand, like most things, the screaming at night is probably just a phase she has to work through while she adjusts.

I will be facing this soon as my daughter has a dodo for sleeping. She’s had a lot of changes recently: new house, new brother so won’t tackle this for a while.

If it’s any reassurance, and maybe your daughter needs them to settle for a bit longer I asked the dentist about this and they said having a soother isn’t really an issue until they have they’re adult teeth coming in. I’m taking that and running with it for a bit of relief. I might try in the new year can we wean of nighttime and naps x

thank you, when I spoke to my dentist he said 2, so I was getting worried I didn’t want it to affect her teeth, or her speech and language! This is something I wish in knew sooner! I don’t feel like it would be right to giver her it back now after 6 days not having it and confusing her if that makes sense! But I wish I knew this sooner I’d of waited a bit longer! Thank you so much! And congratulations on the new baby! Xx

thank you I’ll have a look into this xx

My girl will be 2 next month amd we got rid of the dummy 2 weeks ago! She was only having it for sleep for a while now and one day woke up with a red spot on her tongue from keeping it all night so I just decided it was time,I just plain and simple didn’t gave it to her anymore , it was some hard few days , took her roughly 2 hours to fall asleep everytime and cried , I would go in and comfort her from time to time but after like day five she started to forget about it , now she is self settling with her stuffed bunny or a doll and i’m so happy 🥹🥹

Your child has never self settled if she had a dummy and used that to settle.

I agree that after 6 days theres no pount going back and giving them a dummy now.
You could try comfort stacking. This is where you use 2 or 3 different comfort methods at once and then slowly take them away.
It will take time but they'll get there.

Our son was the same. He slept awful for about 2 weeks. We did milk in the night with a straw so kind of like a dummy I guess and that's really helped. Last night he actually slept through!! Hopefully it'll get better. We don't mention the dummies at all. If he says anything we say "oh they're all gone now remember. Shall we have some milk" or some sort of diverting to some other topic 🤗 and my son was OBSESSED with the dummy and wouldn't sleep without it. So it does get better!;

thank you! I needed to hear this! My little girl has a straw bottle of water that she has in bed with her! I’m happy for you! And hopefully we not too far behind on sleeping better xx