Not talking

My almost 20 mo old still isn’t talking. he will repeat ‘dada’ but could give 2 shits less about ‘mama’ lol whenever I say ‘ball’ he’s always laughing at it but he pays attention. I said ‘I love you’ and he almost mocked the sounds!

He’s being evaluated at the end of this month for autism, his pediatrician said he might be borderline autistic but it’s still early. Is there anyone else going through something like this?

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Have you tried singing the word. I did it out if the blue and my daughter repeated it.
Sing, “can you say ——“ see what happens

Have you tried repetitive teaching

I am going through this with my now three year old. She wouldn’t talk, she had texture issues, and eating issues. At 1.5 she started OT, ST, developmental therapy and started seeing a nutritionist. It seemed like nothing was changing for the longest time, then all the sudden 4 months ago it’s like a switch just clicked in her brain. She’s talking in sentences, she’s in preschool and engaged with other kids, her texture and eating hasn’t improved but so many other things she grew out of with the support of us as parents and therapy. She was tested for autism right before these improvements started and they thought she might be on the spectrum. Not they are pretty sure she isn’t. Even if your child is and continues to be, use all the resources your ped will help you get. It makes the difference. You got this mama.

My son is 20months today and can’t say words fully but I know what he’s saying sometimes, doesn’t say no but he will shake his head 🤣accept I haven’t been told anything ab it he’s getting his hearing testing done after he’s 2 bc the lady said it’s the most closest opening they have unfortunately

Definitely good that you are seeking resources from the pediatrician! My daughter was born a month early and had a lot of delays in crawling, babbling and some gross motor function and we were able to get a lot of free resources through the state of California that worked with her, and now she is almost completely caught up

My girl is the same and she is 20 mths as well.. But i hate to say it i think its because i don't force her to have the opportunities to talk she knows if she whines with certain gesture or what have you that i will immediately provide what she wants.. Im going crazy because i feel i should respond to her as soon as i can shes my last but i still have rules boundaries she hears the words no don't etc but if shes hungry or wants a different toy, or to play a game, snacks, be picked up, anything i do it if possible. I hate to say it but i think me over providing is contributing to her slow growth verbally.

My son had his 18 months app today. He has referral in for hearing test, and ST. He was also referred to autism evaluation

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circumcision

are we circumcising our boys? or leaving that to dad?

Should I be concerned or am I overthinking?

My little boy is 15 months old, he’s recently taken his first steps and he says mamma and dadda and baba (he has said these for months) we’ve filled out the paperwork for his 12-14 month review and it looks like he isn’t meeting many of his milestones.

He doesn’t copy actions, point, clap etc. He doesn’t react when being spoken to, or to his name. He actively avoids eye contact.

He was so unresponsive to sound that we just had his hearing tested concerned he was deaf. They found that he could hear so he is just choosing not to react to any noises or sounds.

Has anyone else had similar experiences with their little ones? Should I be raising this with the health visitor and ask to be assessed for neurodivergent issue or a social communication problem like autism?

I don’t want to just slap a label on him, but I do feel that there are real concerns. All opinions welcome!!

Routines?

When did you start to introduce your baby’s routine? Do they just have a night routine or full day routine? Wondering when I should start this e.g naps at the same time everyday.

Any routines you have that work for you, please let me know them with timestamps. my baby is 6 weeks and just wondering when we should start them?

Does anyone else’s baby spit up breastmilk but not formula?

I’m seriously considering seeing a lactation consultant because I don’t understand why he can’t hold down breastmilk but can formula. I use soy formula since I’ve used it with my daughter and I’m thinking it might be due to not getting milk coming in for a few days so I had no choice but to give him formula, but now even if I take breaks in between feeding him breastmilk to burp or try to mix breastmilk and formula, he spits it up sooo much. I’m ready to just give him just formula because I’m worried about him not eating enough

Reflux

I need some help my baby is 6 weeks old and recently when I try and wind him after his bottle he’s not bring any wind up and just keeps being sick, I’ve tried infacol but that doesn’t seem to be doing much.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.