Boisterous Baby

I'm just after a little advice regarding babies I'm social situations, such as playgroups, soft play etc

My LB is pure joy. He is always happy, forever smiling and just loves people! Whenever we are at soft play, music lessons or play groups he gets really excited. His little face lights up as soon as we enter and sees other babies, toddlers and adults. He is such an active little boy too, doesn't sit still, always on the go. What I worry about is whenever he sees another baby or a toddler he just wants to grab at them. He grabs their hair, trys to pull himself up on them, crawl over them etc He does this all with a smile or laughter. I know they have no cognitive understanding about how they could hurt others but is anyone else experiencing this with their LO? I'm so worried about him growing up and being heavy handed or labelled as the kid who hurts others! I'm constantly hovering over him in a bid to avoid any harm to other babies and forever saying sorry to parents about how active and tactile he is with their babies.

Any advice is welcome 🙏

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I think it’s totally normal behaviour for babies… We practice “gentle”. I repeat the word, & move his hand slowly. For example, when stroking a dog. Also, if he grabs my hair, I release his grip, repeat “gentle” with Mommy… Works for us. ☺️

@Robynne that's encouraging to hear, thank you. 😊

My LB is very similar. He’s just very active and sociable. When he sees other babies, he tries to poke them in the eyes or grab their nose. He’s just curious and playful and of course doesn’t mean any harm. I also repeat “gentle hands” to him. I’ve been advised that it’s normal and am not too worried. I’d be worried if he does it intentionally when he’s a bit older, but right now, he’s just a curious baby exploring his environment.

My little boy is exactly the same 🤣 I do worry when we’re in social situations, but more about what other parents will think/say about it even though as you say they don’t understand! My boy looks a lot older than he is also so I think parents presume he should know better 😬 I am however reassured as I asked his nursery how he is with other children and they said he’s perfectly fine 😊 it’s easy to get in our own heads about it! X

My boy is exactly the same and I’m nervous for him starting nursery soon for the same reason! I am always following him around saying gentle and moving his hands away; most of the other mums have usually been nice about it though. I know it’s normal behaviour but the other babies at groups/soft play don’t seem to do it 😩 I did leave one group as felt like I was getting judged about him being much more active… I’m never going to be sorry for having a happy, social, curious baby though 😊

@Hana thank you so much this is really encouraging 😊 I will continue with the modelling

@Sophie that's exactly how it leaves you feeling! I'm usually a very confident and secure person but now I feel paranoid what other parents think!

I feel the same about being proud of their nature. Thank you for your reply

Oh my gosh I’m experiencing the same thing right now, I’ve just posted about it. I feel so isolated in group situations because I know they’re feeling nervous about their baby being around mine. He just wants to play and he’s not shy about it.

I honestly just got home from leaving soft play because I could see the mothers feeling uncomfortable 😣 now I’m sad feeling sad for my baby not being able to join in ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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