Why is being sahm so lonely?

Like, I can't go out much because my baby's schedule, naps and feeding is all over the place... He does not take a bottle, so ebf... I cannot go out myself to enjoy anything...
My husband takes over, but that's when I am alone and I just take rest, sleep.. It's either just me with the baby or me alone... There is simply no one around... Also all my family lives on the other side of the globe.. So I can't even call after 11 am till night fall...
And if course, husband works, so most of the time I am alone taking care of my son...
When ppl come to visit, I can't entertain much because we have a early bedtime, since he wakes up through the night...
It's just frustratingly lonely...

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That’s tough I’m so sorry it does get easier as they get older tho I promise! I know it’s hard rn but it’s not forever even tho it feels like it

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Are there any other SAHM in your area? You could hang out with them

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It is lonely. I feel the same. And I also live far away from my family, it’s hard. But it does get easier, you just have to be patient.

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Same. Feel trapped at home. Trying hard to get him to take the bottle so maybe I can leave someday

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let me know if you succeed...
I am so lost... And always stick with kiddo when he sleeps, I stay with him in bedroom instead of putting on the monitor...
I just want to go out...

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I tried chatting up a few... But i am new to the country, and don't drive... So mostly stuck in the house... Also mostly when anyone visits, I am stuck in bedroom to my welcro baby breastfeeding...

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I do use the monitor but he only naps for 30mins. It's exhausting keeping him happy all day and he doesn't sleep well at night. Every day I'm telling myself good job for making it through. Having some bottle success now that we're trying larger nipple sizes

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Sorry mama..
I feel it too ladies. It can be very isolating. We FINALLY got my girl to take a bottle. Not sure what you’ve tried- I’m sure everything.
But in case you haven’t..
1) she had success with Dr Browns bottles.
2) i would use fresh pumped milk within a day or two (when I used freezer milk she didn’t take it)
3) I would dunk the nipple in the milk so it had it on it.
4) I started with giving her one boob then offering bottle afterwards so she wasn’t overly hungry
5) or I offer bottle about 15 minutes prior to when I knew she’d be hungry
6) I gave her a bottle while walking and talking to her rather than sitting down.

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these tips are fantastic. Thank you!

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I understand your feelings. It's very isolating and a hard reality to learn when during your alone time you don't even want to do anything but sleep

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I found while walking and talking and a little bouncing really worked well! It kind of distracted her a bit rather than just trying to shove a bottle at them 😂

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No advice, just solidarity. 💕

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I've had mothers in my area invite me out but its hard!!! Baby bf every 30-90 mins in the day I dread going anywhere! She also recently started refusing bottles. I feel you lol...I keep telling myself by this time next year well be going to the park together and it'll be great! 🥹

I've also been going on walks with my baby with her in the carrier, right now shes the PERFECT height for me to wear a nursing top, plop my nipple in her mouth and feed her while in the carrier if I really need to. I don't know if you were asking for help, but this was life changing! 😂

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