Past due date Oct 7

I am at my due date 40 weeks today and feel like something is wrong with me because my baby doesn’t want to come out yet 🙁. I’ve asked my partner to have sex because I heard it help induce labor but he doesn’t want to… I told him it makes me feel like I’m unattractive or if he’s cheating on me and now I just feel sad about the fact that he rejected me.

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Due dates are kind of a mindfuck. If this is your first baby it’s actually -more- normal to go “past due” than it is to have before you due date. In fact, it’s more common to have them -after- 41 weeks unless you are induced. Don’t be discouraged. Your body -does- know how to do this, you just have to trust it.

Also, usually when a dude doesn’t want to bang at this point in pregnancy it’s because he’s dealing with some emotional issues around the baby and pregnancy. A lot of guys are weirded out by the baby’s head being so close to your cervix or sometimes they can even feel it. Sometimes they just have a lot of anxiety about a new baby coming and all the pressure to support and keep them alive. I encourage you to ask him questions without offense, and try to understand what’s up so the two of you can work through it.

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My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me because he is afraid to hurt me or the baby. The last time we had sex, which was months ago, he hit my cervix is what my gyno said. So I bled a little. Our baby and I were perfectly fine, but after that my husband said no way.
So maybe your partner has similar concerns.

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I’m 40+4 with my first and no signs of labor yet. I’m pretty sure he’ll come when he is ready.

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I am 36 weeks and 4 days today.
I had that feeling, you know when you are trying to take a tampon out on your end of period and it kind of hurts because the tampon is dry? I had that sensation today?

Now I feel like I have to push something about my vagina? It kinda tickles but uncomfortable. I’m not having any pains at all anywhere btw so can’t be baby ??

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cheating dream

i need advice but PLS DON'T JUDGE!!!
last night i had a dream, i always used to dream my partner cheating on me with my friends, or being super mean, but since we had our baby those dreams disappeared. for context, we haven't been able to have sex yet, I'm 12 weeks pp, and my pelvic floor is so tense, and it's awful.
last night i had a VERY weird dream, it was so realistic, and different from others, he handed me his phone, and ask me to help him handle this girl, like annoyed? in the chat this girl was super obsessive, and messaged him a lot before he replied. she asked him to sing a song to her, and he sent her a voice message singing it, and other voice messages i couldn't listen in the dream. i wrote her to stop, and she was angry, telling me he started it. then i confronted him about this (still in the dream) and he changed his attitude, he seemed so guilty and said to me he had deleted some messages. i don't remember much else, but i woke up with the URGE of checking his insta messages. we've been together for 5 years, and I've never checked his phone, and neither has he (that i know if, at least) and contained myself, but I'm still very much concerned about it. it felt like an epiphany, a revelation or smth like that. I know people might think I'm overreacting but i can't get it out of my head, it was so specific.
i though about asking him to show me, but i know he'll be bothered that i don't trust him (i would be too in his place), but if he's cheating he would say that to make me feel bad. also i thought about checking his phone in his sleep, and then ask him to see his reaction, but feel so bad, i wouldn't like if he went through my phone without asking, even tho I have nothing to hide.
please, be kind!!

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