My BD has 3 kids with his ex and we just had a baby. His BM is now causing issues!

My partners BM hates the fact we have a child and "warned" him not to at the beginning of our relationship, Saying it will "look bad" if he has two baby mothers.

She's also done her best to ensure he has his other kids as much as possible so that we have little time to bond with our baby.

We did break up briefly while I was pregnant and he got back with her for a few months, but now we are together again and the BM is bitter I guess.

He has promised that he is never going back to her but I just found out she is pregnant. I'm scared shes trapped him by getting pregnant by him. He said he doesn't think the baby is his though.

I also live with him, have no where else to go, and don't drive so I feel like I need to stay with him to feel safe.

So many issues! HELP 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Just get out honestly. Similar situation to me. Too much drama

The baby is probably his, sorry but sounds like he’s chatting shit to you by saying he doesn’t think it’s his. Like surely he should know ?

Sounds like a toxic man playing two women off against each other honestly

oh no! Sorry to hear that. I feel like I can't go. Our baby is just a few weeks old

hmm maybe. He said they used protection and the timings aren't right

So many things to look at here to be honest.
1. They have 3 kids. I’m sorry but that’s a lot of history and memories together with her.
2. You broke up briefly and he went running back to his ex. I’m sorry but! Girl! How are you not seeing the signs…
3. Never just blindly believe a man if he says he will never go back there you don’t know that. No one ever knows until it happens or he’s in a situation he can’t refuse temptation. You should already know he has love for her because he’s gone back to her once plus 3 KIDS!
4. She’s pregnant! And it could be his! Girlllllllll. Whether she trapped him or not he’s the one that had sex with her after you. I just think you really need to understand the situation and see if this man is actually trustworthy.

can I message you ? xx

just messaged xx

I mean, she's not the problem, HE IS!

I guess 😢

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