Feeling guilty and want advice please 🙏🏻

Off topic but I loooove this bookshelf and all the books! Your baby must be benefiting so much from all the reading!

Hey! I too have had issues pumping and barely getting anything. For me it's a mental barrier - I keep checking the bottles and then get stressed that they're not filling enough and thus in turn put myself off it, it sounds like it could be the same for you if you usually have a good supply.

Have a look on Instagram and see if you can find any useful pumping pages - @midnightmilkbar has lots of feeding support but there are loads out there with helpful tips.

Sorry I don't have much in the way of advice other than the internet is your friend, as I've found good articles and resources on this previously. But you're not alone!

Same here! I literally pump drops of milk so I think I’ll have to eventually use formula when I go back. Remember though that he will be starting solids soon and it will build up

Looking at photos of baby or being near baby when pumping, having something that smells of them. You might find you can continue feeding when you're there but just have food and water in the day when at nursery etc. You might need to hand express for comfort initially but your supply will regulate. They will make up for missed feeds when they're back with you and you'll find a new routine. X

I was afraid of this when I went back to work. I bought a new pump and it did work better. Made sure to have the flanges sized correctly.However? My baby wouldn’t drink the milk from a bottle or cup. So I continued to breastfeed him in the mornings and after work. I was lucky that I only did 1/2 days until he was 1. So he ate solids during the hours away. Maybe check your parts are sized properly? That seemed to be my biggest issue. Also use the Hakka on the other boob when nursing. That always helped me too. Usually a few ounces each feed.

So what I know there’s nothing better than baby’s stimulation. And for milk supply all I read is drink plenty of water, rest, eat very well. I try this supplement and I think it works. Get a good pump, spectra is great!

If you want to keep feeding breast milk to your baby but worried supply isn't enough, or may not be enough when you're apart from them you can also offer formula and breast milk. It doesn't have to be one or the other. We do both when I have to be away and it soothes me knowing that breast milk is still a part of her diet. ☀️

I’m not sure how true this is as I haven’t done any research but someone previously commented that once they start solids theycatch up on the breast milk when you are home they don’t need it during the day? Maybe look into it? X

Hey, when are you looking at returning to work? As i thought the same but then i seen something that really but my mind at ease.. so my LB will be 10 months when i return to work and will be attending nursery. In my head I was going to have to send lots of expressed milk with him every day but i follow a page on instagram called mama’s milk (she is really good) and she said at that age baby will just feed around work etc so ill feed him when we wake then before drop off then he will eat his food like normal throughout the day then ill feed him on pick up, before bed and throughout the night as normal. Could this maybe be an option for you? I still may send him with a small amount of milk he can have with his ‘afternoon snack’ haha its gave me a lot more peace of mind about returning to work and the need to pump at work etc (i may still pump once during work). Also you may find when you try to pump you are able to pump more off as LO hasnt fed on you for a while so they will be fuller?x

Oh bless you, honestly please don’t feel guilty. I know there’s always lots of arguments regarding feeding and unfortunately health visitors etc still preach breast is best which I think puts a lot of pressure on new mums. Personally I think fed is best and whichever way you see fit be proud. I’m going for bottle feeding when I have mine. The bookshelf is amazing hun! ♥️ xxx

I was having trouble just getting any for feeding, and what helpers me make more was taking some breastfeeding supplements. I think it was called milk flow. And before with my older babies I would drink the mother's milk tea

thank you so much I honestly think books are so valuable in a baby and kids lives and I just loved the bookcase so much

thank you so much I was just having such a bad night and working myself up so much last night when he was sound asleep

we started him on solids at 5 months and he loves his food so much

thank you so much I think I just needed to know that I wasn’t alone as most things I’ve been fine with and it was just I think starting to think of beinb away and going back to work after Christmas was getting to me xx

I think that’s what I worrh about is well is I don’t know how much milk in ouches he’d drink considering it’s always been directly from the boob

I have a 24cm and a 28cm flange what one did you use I also have the tommee tippee in bra electric pump

thank you so much what supplement was it ?

what formula did you use I was thinking of the Sma baby one

thank you so much I think that’s where I’m messinb up as well is that it’s not after he feeds thank you

I always try and make sure I drink plenty of water bevahee I used to drink a lot of fizzy before I had him and now I limit myself to one a day and then at least 2 litres of water bug try and make sure it’s more

ah okay thank you

so I’ll be returning January so will be about 9 months roughly

How many ouches roughly does your baby drink during a pumped feed woukd you say ? And I’ll check her out thank you so much

thank you so much funnily enough I never planned on breast feeding apart from the first 2 days for the goodness but he just took so well that I just continued and now I just love it so much so I feel like I’m more sad that it would possibly end reallh more than anything as it’s been amazing and I believe fed is best as well and thank you lovely xxx

thank you so much I’ll check them out xx

I have an in bra one so thag I could still do stuff but yeah I hope I would be able to to still bf morninh and nights and tbh mine might be on 3 meals a day then tbh

Awww you’re welcome im gutted for you hun but there’s lots of lovely bonding moments and be proud of yourself. I can understand though the ending but unto a different chapter- think of all the fun pics of baby led weaning 🤣xx

you’re welcome! I have seen you said you started your baby on solids at 5 so they should be well on there way with food by then ☺️. So he only has one bottle a day (before bed) just so he will take a bottle this is something we have always done as I struggled with breastfeeding at the start he couldnt latch at all so ive had to express from the get go.. turns out he had tongue tie bless him! So yeah that bottle he has is 5ozs but i then offer him the breast after sometimes he will just have a small amount extra and falls asleep other nights he will have a good feed on me too so all depends really!

I think 24 but you have to look up how to measure your nipple and buy the size that corresponds. Both times in breastfed in Used the Hakka though and was the easiest thing. Basically got enough using it each day for the following days 1-2 attempts at a bottle. 😂 have you practiced with a bottle yet? If he doesn’t take it, try a munchkin 360 or other sippy cup. My son started using his when he started water and figured it out quickly. Was the only way to get any milk into him at all since he hated all bottles.

we use Hipp Organic. Only because I had food poisoning so my husband went out to get formula and that's the first one he found. It worked well for her so we've stuck with it.