My bf won’t have sex anymore

I’m 19 and my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year. Our sex life started off being amazing, we would have it 3 times a day most times we saw each other. Yet recently, we’ve dwindled it down to 2 times a week. That may sound okay, but it’s just quickies. He gives me near to nothing and he’s not been able to come from me the past 2 times.
However, he masturbates about the same amount of times a week and he’s able to come from that easily.
I’ve been telling me i need a lot more from him and he’s just not doing it. WHAT DO I DO?!

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Buy yourself a dildo girl 😂

Some guys just get up in their head that there's a baby in there and it ruins the mood 🙀
Maybe have a conversation with him and see if he's nervous about hurting you or baby?

Every relationship I've been in has been the same thing. At first the sex is great, then they rather watch porn. At this point I just leave them. There's nothing you can do and they're putting their pleasure over yours

I’d say talk to him .. the idea of a baby in your tummy may turn him off like he may hurt the baby or just the thought sounds crazy ! How is he mentally have you checked with him because men /guys go through things too that they don’t feel comfortable sharing with us ladies tbh …

Get you a 🌹 girly

I been hearing about these 🌹 👀 they good?

I say yes! It’s the only toy that makes me squirt (sorry but we’re all women🤣) my favorite is to use it with penetration. Caught a cramp last night the O was so big 😭😭🤣🥴

yeah sorry b no he’s not, i know his every waking move, have the password to his phone. He’s not fucking someone else so don’t u dare say that please, i’m too depressed to deal with that bullshit.
Also, i found out the reason and tbh it’s very valid. It’s because we’ve been arguing every other day, as i have bpd, which is already hard to deal with, let alone the pregnancy hormones, and he’s just not in the mood because of it as much.

My advice get yourself a new man lol

just cuz he won’t have sex with me…bit shitty advice

This has happened with me and I’m 29 and my partner is 42. I spoke to my partner and was open with how I felt. He was honest and said he still find me very attractive but the baby thing does put him off.

I think best thing to do is talk to each other about how you feel and work out how you will navigate that. There are so many other ways other than penetrative sex to feel that sexual bond

Plus masturbating helps you girl 😂 xx

Do NOT let him gaslight you and blame YOU for HIS doing.
My best friend and I have BPD too girl, and honestly I think we're easier to gaslight because we think there's something wrong with us, but our BPD has nothing to do with THEIR wrong doings.

Me and my bf sex life was 3-4 times a day everyday we now live together we have sex about 3-4 times a month and the times I have been pregnant we stopped having sex completely

I had the same problem in my pregnancy he didn't like the thought there was his baby inside of me it made me super self conscious that he didn't want to have sex n when we did it would be super fast n he wouldn't cum which also sucked because it made me think the worst just know your not alone

It’s cuz he thinks he will hurt baby, maybe explain to him the midwife said he can’t hurt the baby because theirs a wall in the way. His thing goes nowhere near the baby

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Hey I really need to make some friends being a mom is so lonely. Distance does not matter to me (I can’t see waves)

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

Maternity leave Employment rights?

I have 6 weeks left of work and they have completely changed my job spec including my job title and all my responsibilities, they have done this ahead of advertising my maternity cover apparently to fit business needs which I am fine with but i explained as long as it doesn’t effect me before I go. They have now turned round and said they want me to do the training for it before I go and want me to sign a variation in contract asap. Are they allowed to do this? I thought you had the right to come back to the same job within 26 weeks and I haven’t even left yet and they’re changing it? I was going to see what the job was when I got back and go from there but now they’re wanting me to sign this change in contract before I go I don’t know what to do, do I have to sign it ?

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️

I’ve loss it finally

Please help me good or bad advice I need it !!!
Quick rundown had my baby 3 months ago her dad was cheating on me all the way through pregnancy u til 2 months pp . I was depressed and sad along with pnd ! I allowed him to leave my house sleep about and come back I had no fight left in me I was broken emotionless didn’t want to be here . Fact forward to a few days after valentines day a male friend brought me flowers ex didn’t like it called me all the names ect but 4 days later begging me back I tried for our daughter but he’s put his hands on me twice in the month daily name calling body shaming
Then today we was out his friend rang him why we was in the car to say he has 2 girls for them to go link this was on loud speaker ! I lost my shit arguing we got home I seen red n went for him I then got the hammer & smashed his car windows . I know that was wrong but being goaded daily put down n body shamed made me hate him then I just seen red