3 year old and 11 month old won’t let me sleep!

The sleepless night haven’t this bad since my baby had her days and night mixed up as a newborn. The last few weeks we have been trying to get the 3 year old to be in her own room. She only wants me to cuddle her and do nighttime routine and she wakes up at least 2 times a night(she stays in her bed) but cries for me to cuddle her and I go back in. By the time I get her back down my baby is wanting to nurse and it’s a never ending cycle. Even when they are both back down it’s like my brain won’t shut off again and is waiting for them to just wake me up again. I don’t even check my phone while nursing in hope that helps me go back to sleep. I feel like 3-4 times is a lot for an almost 1 year old and when it used to be once. My husband feels helpless and tells me to nap as much as possible when he is home and keeps asking my toddler if he can do nighttime cuddles and she litterally screams and say she wants me. But doing to night routines when I have a husband willing to help is exhausting. Is it just an adjustment period and sleep regression that I just got to power through. Being the default parent for both kids is rough but my husband says it’s not fun to be the one that is rejected either. HELP!!! Any advice?

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I'm in a similar struggle with my 2 year old and 5 month old.

Sorry you’re going through all this, it’s definitely exhausting having children so close in age but esp at night time lol Can I suggest you start pumping? Also, your 3 yr old unfortunately is going to have to start getting use to their dad, i had to tell my partner that. He would say, he wants you, he’s crying.. I unfortunately wasn’t home, or wasn’t available I dealing with my daughter. And it didn’t take long before the nights I needed dad to handle it, it made it a lot easier bc my son understood that’s just what it is. Consistency IS KEY. My almost 3 year old would obviously always want me over dad at night but once he got use to it, things went more smoothly. do it for your sanity!

it’s only hard at night! They are both joys during the day and are best of friends. I used to pump but now she won’t take a bottle I still have a lot of frozen milk. I tried to give her a little extra solids at dinner to keep her more full but it’s not working. Yeah maybe for a couple nights I might have to make my daughter and husband suck it up.

I'd say your husband should take over with your daughter, it's not safe for you to try to function with no sleep 💜

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