This is really hard!

My baby is 8 days old and the last 2 nights she hasn't slept at all. From 10-4:30 she's up screaming and getting so worked up and agitated and nothing will calm her down. During the day she's really good, has a feed, has a long sleep etc, but the second we get to nighttime I can't console her. I think she might have wind issues. She's wants to latch constantly but she doesn't actually feed, just uses my boobs for comfort. Tried a dummy last night out of desperation but again all she did was suckle on it really hard and aggressively and it didn't sooth her at all. To top things off I've now come down with a cold and I feel exhausted! I just had to come here to vent about how hard this is. Has anyone had a similar experience?

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Try to bath baby between 8 pm and 9 pm with a warm water. press the body with a little beat of hot water on a towel. Breast feed up to 20 mins and watch your baby sleep for so long.

she's still got her umbilical cord on, but I could use a little flannel on her chest if that would work?

Thank you! I'll have a look

Infocal is great for wind can use from birth Tesco sell it it’s only like 4.50 top to tail her we do this with our son we put him in the bedroom in a nice dim light jug of warm water and a nice soft flannel and wash him down gentle then moisturise him before he gets his bottle nice and calm and relaxed it seems to settle him we didn’t bath him till his cord fell off but even now he’s nearly a month old we have only bathed him twice with water as your not suppose to use any soaps until there a month old always here if you need to drop me a message I know how hard the nights can be xxx

Do you give formula? Ours had the worst wind issues, and we changed to comfort formula and it’s made so much difference. That, along with colief (check the age for that) has made such a positive change. Other things-warm up the cot, swaddle them, white noise. Good luck mumma! xxx

Sending hugs. Sounds really hard! Have you tried some light massage for the winding and doing bicycle legs? Red light and white noise machine may help too or a rockit crib vibrator (if she sleeps well in a moving car or pram). Mine also wanted to latch constantly around this time, but no wind issues. He is definitely afraid of the dark so I got black out curtains for no reason.

Is her weight doing OK? When mine was latching every 30 mins at night I got the impression he was hungry but too sleepy to actually feed so I had to try to wake him to feed properly and then he slept. Slightly undress and blow air on neck or tickle under chin to get a suckle going.

Massage helps a lot .
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