Struggles

Did anyone else find out they were pregnant and werent expecting it.... now a few months with baby (Who I obviously love with my whole heart) but when you have bad days feel like you werent ready for baby? (or even if you planned it all to the T)

Do you have days where you struggle and grieve for your past life?

*I know its just 1 bad day, its just been such a long hard day! Just want to make sure Im not being dramatic.

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We planned our baby but some days I think - shit, this is literally forever now.... It's ok to grieve your old life but try to think of all of the new things and first's you can do as a family. X

Planned baby - still have that days. I think it’s normal and good to talk about it 😊

Yes me I didn’t plan to have my daughter and I’m a single mum. I’ve grieved and mourned my old life so much and been depressed. However I’ve done counselling and also going to baby classes, be around my family etc. you’re not being dramatic it’s a huge life change and it’s take adjusting to!

I never planned to have children, so my daughter was a huge surprise which also meant a big move away to a new area. Your feelings are valid and it's important to feel them, but it sounds like you also are focusing on the amazing things about your new life which are different but still special. It's such an adjustment, but I'll be honest I had a day just like you've described today.

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