Cps

Im a mom of 3. Two of them being toddlers. My 2 year old ended up with a toddler fracture. My mil or sil called cps on us for a bunch of false accusations. The caseworker came out. My house wasnt the cleanest but also wasnt that dirty as in
Few dishes in the sink, mountain of laundry on the bed, sons bedroom was messy, and laundry room was kinda dirty. She said they get these kinda calls all the time. I cried and told her i felt like i was failing. They cant close the case until they have word that he has an appointment. Im so scared. Can they come back and take my kids because of this or would they already have ? This happened friday morning. I texted her and she said case wont be closed until they talk to ortho

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They won't take the kids unless there is a really good reason talk to the doctor maybe have the doctor write a note to prove you didn't do anything I had to do the same with different stuff with child protection but just get him looked at and have it all documented to fall back on and explain everything to your doctor maybe try a women they can be sometimes more understanding in these situations

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They just want confirmation from the doctor that you didn’t purposefully cause the injury mama! If they felt the kids were in any true danger, they would’ve taken them that day though. But with everything happening in these later days a lot of rules have changed (which really just holds cps accountable to do their due diligence). You’ll be okay 🥺💕

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thank you . Im so upset. Someone said my son had body odor and dirt underneath his nails. Like he gets a bath every other day . We were at urgent care until 8pm and he was so tired. So i didnt give him a bath then the next morning before bath he got worse so we took him to the er after my drs appointment. I try my best

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thank you so much

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You are doing amazing I know it can be so scary but you are doing all you can just take all the steps you think are right to just cover yourself in the the long run 🙂 if you need any help let me know I'm always available to help out

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thank you ❤️❤️

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They barely take kids from houses they actually are being abused and neglected heck even tortured at some cases. Just do you, stay prayed up and focus on your normal routine. They will see that your kid is not in danger.

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what about your partner ? did he say anything to his mother and sister ? my husband would have lost it if they did something like that

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he went off. It was kinda hot🙃🙃🙃😄😜

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If it makes you feel any better, any case worker worth their salt is going to see through the crap.
I used to volunteer in that world and I’m telling you…they don’t take kids for just anything. I had a case where the little girls (3 girls—7, 8, 12) always had lice. They had bed bugs, no running water, and the mom was doing drugs. It took over a year to remove them.
She has to say that but I am telling you, unless the reason your toddler ended up with a fracture is because you or someone in your household hurt them, it will be fine.

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Kids have accidents just like adults.
Just keep up with his Dr's, do what they recommend, and try to have him take it easy for a while till he heals up. (I definitely know that will be hard with a toddler)
And cut absolutely all contact with MIL and SIL!

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I’m gonna need details of that heated conversation lol.

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I hope you cut contact with them after this

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They are very very good at their job. They know who are the good parents. They have to investigate any reports. They are just doing their job, and as scary as it is you need to have faith in what she says. If she’s already talking of closing the case you will be okay. The ones that need to worry are the cases that don’t get closed after one interview. (Also been there after a fracture and the hospital called, they knew immediately who good parents are)

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