Am I doing too much??

Not sure if I’m doing too much but I hate having to ask my bd to help??? The baby could be screaming and I’m doing everything in my power while he sits there and waits till I’m over the moon agitated to do something. Or he waits for me to ask him before he does. Does this make sense?

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mine is the same, he told me the other night he was too tired to hold her…😭 weaponised incompetence if he really wanted to he would, i need to ask him to do anything he can’t look around and see what needs to be done. and if he can he’ll let me do it first

No your bd should automatically help you if baby is screaming id be worried if my partner just sits there and does nothing if baby is screaming or crying and not calm him down if I’m not able to do it at that time

Sounds like he's not a partner or a parent. That wouldn't make sense to me. I'd address it with him.

Ohhh I’m not ALONE! At 34 on my 3rd who’s done it all for 12 years I get told at 33 weeks pregnant get up off my ass and handle I need to keep active. Mind you I have a 16 month old who diapers still need changing who will just sit and watch me do it all that ASs! But I got something for his ass and I ain’t playing! I’m tired of having to either ask for help cause I don’t but he tells me I have to ask it’s common damn sense wtf I need to ask for help! But these dudes can’t use they brain 🧠 I asked when do I get to sit my ass down and relax before new baby come cause I am TIRED!!

My bd helps me , it’s wasn’t like that at first it’s when I put my gut down and said look man I need help with this baby 4 hour sleeps constant screaming and whining it’s hard on one person , anyway I said to him your gonna have to leave and just visit him everyday because I can’t handle picking up after you and not helping me with the baby right there he smartened up and now he wakes up in the middle of the night for me and everything

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