Stay at home mom - hobbies

Stay at home mamas! What are we doing when it comes to hobbies and taking time for ourselves!?! Is that a thing anymore?

My fiance has lots of physical hobbies (ex. Scuba diving, golfing) and my hobbies are baking, crochet, painting ... I'm in a rut bc his allows him to leave the house and have time to himself, and I have to work around being home with the baby while I try to partake in my hobbies .. what are some ways I can get some alone time too???

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Go to cooking / baking classes or crochet groups

I get zero alone time unless I ask others to take my son for the day. I’m not willing to do that yet.

Following as I stay at home mum to 2 under 2 x

The only time that I really get to be only is when my mom watches my little one so I can go to class once a week. Otherwise, I have to multitask to do what I like

Try tai chi in your area. Apparently people do it in parks all the time, I just haven't noticed until recently 🙃

FTM to a almost 4 month old boy. I do not get time alone really but I try to do some things I enjoy still. I try to bake something once a week or try new recipes because I enjoy cooking and baking. Halloween is big for us and this year we are doing a super Mario theme so after he goes to bed I have been hand drawing, cutting out, and painting all of our decorations. If you have a handheld game you like- mine is Dreamlight Valley- I play that if I get nap trapped. Or I read if nap trapped. I try once or twice a month to make it to my moms to hang out with her and my sister, they hold or play with him most of the time I am there so it is a mini break! I’m still trying to feel comfortable enough to take him out and about to do things so I haven’t done many outside the house hobbies unfortunately.

My husband and I make sure to give each other at least 1 day a week to do our hobbies. Mine are usually at home too and it's tough but he will take our son for a walk or I will go into the spare room or downstairs so it's like I'm not there. Just because his hobbies require him to leave the house doesn't mean he shouldn't make time for you to do yours at home 🤷‍♀️

So far I've only gotten back into reading and sometimes yoga since having my daughter. My issue is trying to find the energy to do that stuff when she naps!

Plants, plants, and more plants

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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

Calpol

My mum has just given my 4 year old calpol because he asked for it. He isn’t poorly (although was last week, been fine this week) he just likes the taste of it. My mum didn’t check, didn’t ask, just gave it to him and when I’ve questioned her she said “he asked for it”. Then quizzed 4 year old who said he asked for it because it tastes nice.

How would you react?