STROLLERS & LANDLORDS

I mean I totally get not be allowed to leave it down there. But it sucks that he leaves stuff too. Personally I would get a light weight car seat that you can easily carry up and down and maybe leave a stroller down there. But either way it could very easily get stolen if it’s down there 24/7 so you really have to think about if that’s worth it too

there nothing you can do. regardless of whether he keeps stuff there of not. he’s not supposed to. no one is. but if he say no , no is no.

You can leave it there and when he comes home he can bring it upstairs for you.

Try to save up some money and invest in a less heavy stroller. Join some mom groups on facebook see if anyone is giving away or selling one.

For the last 2 months of my pregnancy and the first 4 months of my daughters life i had to walk up the stairs every single day. what made it easier head having a lighter stroller. the one that disconnect from the base. so it’s a car seat and a base.

call 311 to see what u can do ? & ask if its out of the way of the walk area is it possible to leave down stairs

I had a friend who lived in a fourth floor walk up in Manhattan who left her doona in the lobby during the day. But she would bring it up at night. I think it sucks that landlords and supers never follow their own rules. I personally almost never used a car seat (I didn’t even have one until he was 2 months but I know that isn’t an option for a hospital birth) and always took my baby in Ergobaby carrier when he was really small. We mostly walk or take the train.

if you want you can call 311 and let them know he’s not abiding by the fire laws and has the stairs blocked. they’ll come investigate and then he’ll be forced to clear the space. if you can’t then no one can , even if he owns the building.

Honey bear , it’s time to find you a new home. One without so many stairs and especially one with a nicer landlord who has compassion. He sees and knows that you are heavily pregnant and just don’t care about you as a tenant at all. After having your baby it will be a lot to go up and down those stairs with a stroller much less to be carrying a baby too.

If you don’t want to move , I would say write him a letter explaining your situation very clearly and hope that he allows you to keep it there.

Good Luck.

but then again u gotta think abt bugs & other things getting into stroller & laying eggs, its not sanitary for a newborn but i totally get the hassle of being a single mom

the doona was a gift but since it’s already a built in car seat I like don’t wanna buy another card at especially since the doona is weight maxed and I’ll have to buy another stroller when the baby turns 1. I bought a bike lock to lock the doona on the first floor to the stairwell so it won’t get stolen 😩

yeah I’ve been in this building for years now but recently moved into the two bedroom on the top floor for more space. Throughout all 9 months I’ve been walking up 4 flights of unregulated height of stairs bc the building is prewar. I have a dog also so I have to take her out and yeah it’s just a lot on my body. When you had the car seat and base did you leave the base downstairs? After I recover from surgery like yeah I’ll suck it up and do it even though it’s sucks but for the first two months like I’m just not going to be able to move a heavy ass stroller and can’t afford to buy another at the moment.

financially I can’t move, I’m in a rent controlled building and pay 1/2 of what market rent is right now. My son has his own room ready and waiting for him and I have my own room too. I receive zero help from anyone including his dead beat father, evrything falls on me financially so this is the best I can do for now 🥹

I’ve seen roaches in the hall downstairs I know! I was thinking about that….smh. I hate this situation so much.

is it possible for you to stay with someone for the first week or so because c-sections are nthng to play with , only thing u can lift is your baby & sometimes thts too much for some moms . i had 4 c-sections so i know tht its very dangerous the first couple weeks , u CAN NOT & should definitely not lift anything other than baby . so see if u can stay with someone for 2 weeks or see if someone can come help for 2 weeks . I think 311 or PATH could maybe help in you situation or even ask your drs & nurses before u have baby , explain your situation. i’ll keep you in my prayers , i pray you find the help you need 🙏🏾

Look into low-cost/low-income postpartum doulas because I can’t imagine carrying that thing upstairs after having surgery

I’m gonna send my dog to my friends house for two weeks and then I’ll be home alone but I’ll have my doula checking in on me 3-4x a week. It’s anxiety inducing but like I don’t have family to support me in the state, everyone is coming for one day for the c section and then leaving. They won’t even be around to transport me back home. I’ve cried about it a lot but now that it’s a week away I’m just trying to mentally strengthen myself and not overthink. I’m gonna just lock the stroller to the stairwell and if they wanna call the fire dept and fine me so be it- it’ll go to collections like evrything else. I’m gonna try to get a doctors note saying I can’t lift it so that I have some legal protection if things escalate…thank you I really appreciate your response and prayers 🙏🏾❤️

yes I actually have a doula that I’m working with who was fundraised for me by an amazing postpartum support provider. She’s gonna be coming 3-4x time a week for a couple hours a day….I’m nervous for the hrs alone but just gonna hope for the best, made it this far so now this is the final stage is healing effectively through the c section 🙏🏾

I would ask if you could again, even temporarily - like the first 6 weeks and potentially lock it up or find a closet near the mailboxes? just until you heal more from the c section?

ok good , forget wt they say for now u gotta keep a positive mindset for u & baby . so yea worry abt all tht later , just heal & take care of yourself ❤️ but if u get an uber maybe u can give him or her a lil tip to carry the stroller up the stairs for u tht first day u come home

I just sent a follow up text asking about exactly this ✨ my anxiety needs answers now I can’t wait until next week

that’s so true I can ask the Uber guy that day! Thank you 😊 🥹

As a landlord the property is theirs and they only rent tenants the apartment and nothing else but in a case like this the landlord could write up something probably saying you can keep it down there for the first 90days of giving birth but after that you gotta bring it upstairs. Then again I don't know the type of relationship you and your landlord have. But try explaining to him more in a calm and nice way and see what happens

Sometimes it's the approach or some disagreement from the past that makes landlords hard on the tenants not saying that is your case but I'm speaking from personal experience

Send this picture to him with “ and this isn’t a fire hazard?”

for the price of the Donna you could buy a separate stroller and car seat. Your baby will grow out of the Donna faster than regular car seat. If it’s possible to return.

Baby carry n leave the doona in the car if u dnt have a car just baby carry itll be easier on u up n down the steps n u will be hand free

I read u havin a csection u shouldnt be lifting the car seat at all 😩 if u cant baby wear lookup a lightweight newborn stroller something tht has a carry strap

thank you!! I’m going to try to talk to him again when I next see him in person…he’s just ignoring my text and proceeded to after years of having his families personal things in the hallway, remove those things since I mentioned them. SMH.

it was a second hand gift from a friend that she used with her baby two years ago so it’s not new and she doesn’t have a receipt. I was actually thinking I could sell it and buy another stroller but the issue still remains with not being able to store even the stroller frame downstairs. Everything would have to be carried up.

seeeeee omg 🥹🥹 I’m so sorry you had to do this!!! And I’m also feeling sorry for myself like this is so unfair to a new mom. I’m just so mad because like at the end of the day I would love A LITTLE accommodation from the landlord like I’m aware I’m entitled to nothing but like damn I’m physically going to be breaking my back

yeah that’s what I’m leaning towards honestly, and then when I DO have to use the stroller I’ll just make two trips up and down the stairs or something I guess…smh 😩

I've been a doula for 15 years. However, I'm home with my 1-year-old and not practicing at the moment. I live in Queens. I've had 4 children with 3 C-sections, and I have stairs in my house. Not to scare you, but my husband and his brother had to lift me up the stairs, especially because the wound was fresh. You don't want the wound to reopen or put too much pressure on your feet. I would volunteer for free to pick you up from the hospital and take you home. I'll even help you get situated if you'd like. I just hate to hear the situation you're in. Please inbox me if you're interested. But anything you need help with, please let me know.

Well, your landlord should let you put the stroller there even if is not permitted. Just to consider you are a pregnant woman and mom to be. When my landlord got to know that I was pregnant, he brought me 2 boxes of diapers and wipes. When I gave birth, he gave me toys, a gym, clothes, and some books for the baby. You are doing an awesome job which is being a mom, you should be treated like a queen. So, if he won't do it, fight! So, carrying the thing up and down is something you cannot do and you shouldn't think about it.

Going up the stairs is going to be literally impossible right after your C-section. You should consider staying with a friend/family for a week or 2 when the wound is fresh. C-section recovery is no joke.
After that, I agree with the suggestion to not use the stroller unless 100% needed in the beginning.
There are really good carriers that you'll love and will make your life easier. Not to mention, carriers make your baby happy, they can hear your heartbeat again!

wow thank you I am going to message you now 🙏🏾🙏🏾