How to get out of this funk?

Hi mamas, lately I am feeling very defeated and lonely. I love my son and my husband more than anything but I feel like all I am is a mother, wife and employee. I work full time and when I'm not working I have my son. I feel like I just need a little break once a week that doesn't involve normal hygiene. I think taking a shower is a break. But it simply isn't, especially when I have the baby monitor in the bathroom with me and I'm crying in the shower because I'm so overwhelmed. I just need advice and recommendation on what y'all other mom's do to keep your sanity. My husband has a weird schedule and typically doesn't get off work until 9pm so unfortunately he isn't there to help me a lot with bedtime stuff. I don't have any hobbies and what I used to be interested in, I'm not anymore. It also doesn't help that my husband has hobbies and I can't help but feel resentment towards him when he goes and does those things. He is a boxer, loves to work out, plays guitar and currently does fantasy football. I hate the feeling I get when he goes to do his hobbies. I feel so jealous that he has things that he loves to do that gets his stress out. I hate that I feel this way. He deserves to have these hobbies and get his stress out, it just makes it difficult that I don't have an outlet. I just need some advice on what I can do. What are some of y'all's hobbies? I would prefer something that doesn't require me to leave the house or if I do that is either free or cheap to do. Any advice or recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I just need some help!

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Here to see some recommendations, I kind of feel the same way. Except I’m a SAHM and my husband works 7pm-7am M-F si during the day he is sleeping and working at night. We only have time to do things on the weekends and when we do stuff is what he wants to do and never what I want to do. I found a mom group that I join once in a while for walks but lately every time I want to join something comes up so I just sit home and do nothing. I get the baby ready for the day I make good for her and my husband and that’s pretty much my day.

I'm in the same boat and it helps just to get it out! If you ever need someone to vent to we can vent to each other! I feel it helps when you have someone to talk to that won't run to your SO and tell them everything you just said cause that's usually where I'm stuck and makes it hard to talk to anybody. I don't live near my family and nobody even asks how I'm doing so I'm pretty lonely and I'm with you on having him working long hours. My kids dad leaves home way before we get up for the day and doesn't get home till between 6pm and 11pm so a few nights a week we are all sleeping before he gets home. I'm dealing with postpartum depression and sounds like you might have a bit of it too. Have you posted on a local moms group to see if you can find friends? I actually met a friend on here and we hang out every other week or so and talk once in awhile which helps me not feel so alone

I definitely feel like I have some ppd, I'm a part of a few local mom groups but I have really bad anxiety and I have a really hard time making and keeping friends. My anxiety holds me back from making friends. Most of my anxiety is social and I just wish it was easier for me to talk to people. I feel so lonely not having a friend to open up to and hang out with when I just need some time away.

if we were closer I'd def hang out with you! But I feel the same way I have some type of anxiety and now I have thyroid issues so I'm just wiped out constantly and I have twins so that makes it even harder!

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