Exclusively breastfed + co-sleeper=horrible sleeper

My 12 month old sleeps on a floor bed. He was horrible with crib transfers, so now I nurse him back to sleep and roll away. He used to sleep for at least 2 hours, sometimes 3 or 4. I would go to bed, nurse him back to sleep, leave to my bed, and eventually end up in his bed early in the morning after too many wakeups. He's always woken up a ton.

Tonight he went to bed at 7:40pm and he has already woken up 4 times (10:15pm). He rolls around, cries, sits up, or starts crawling off his bed. I'm not comfortable CIO, night weaning, or sleep training. But geeeez, why is he such a horrible sleeper. I know developmentally this is a big time, but his sleep has always been horrible and this isn't new/would go along with a developmental reason.

He wakes up around 6:40-7:00, nap 12-1:40(sometimes 2), bedtime nurse/rock to sleep starts around 7:30. I had to drop him to 1 nap because he was fighting the 2nd nap and wouldn't take it and then would mess up his bedtime. I tried for a week to stay with 2 napa, but it wasn't working. I tried to put him to bed closer to 7 (on 1 nap), but he fights it and isn't ready.

Why does he wake so frequently? Advice? This is such a hard season of life.

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I didn't want to fully night wean but I couldn't bear the nights where she would wake up over and over..I started holding her while she cried, at first she cried and maybe felt bad, but it only took about 5 minutes, then she would sleep 4-5 hours. That only took about 1 night. She quickly learned she could go back to sleep without nursing. For some reason she has the longest stretch when I just hold her to sleep. It was not painful like I thought it would be. She wakes up to nurse 1 time now which is fine with me.

@Anna Burke I could try that. He used to let my husband rock him to sleep, but now he screams. If he can settle him down then he'll still wake up shortly after. Maybe I'll try holding longer because I did do that last night, but once I laid him on his bed then he woke up.

Yeah laying her down has really been a struggle. I've mostly been doing the roll away.

My daughter is a horrible sleeper as well. I have her sleep at 10:30pm ish just so she can sleep in more but she still wake up 3x a night. I’ve been trying to ween her off of breast feeding so I’ve been giving her a bottle of either soy milk, oat milk or pea milk, and it seems to get to sleep a little longer at night before waking up again. I would still breast feed during the day. I feed her real food around 8pm as well so she will be full. Try that, maybe it’ll help? Maybe he’s hungry. Breast milk digest pretty fast.

I could have written this myself. Last night was every hour. I’m hoping it’s just developmental bc he just started walking and still hasn’t said any meaningful words. So hopefully that comes soon and he (I) can get some rest.

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