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Hey we have three cats we adore but not sure how they’re going to react to the baby! Any experience or advice would be amazing!! X

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Our cat who is a total softy, very affectionate has mostly ignored our baby 😂 I didn't really expect that to be honest x

Awww thank you guys!! X

We have one cat and when we first brought our son home from hospital we let our cat sniff him in the car seat. After that our cat was always by our sons side, they are the best of friends!

Our cat would occasionally sniff our son as a newborn but that was it she’d stay away 🤣 as he’s got old she will sit near him etc. now he’s on the move she tolerates him quite well. She’ll walk away if he starts grabbing her. She’s only 3 so she’s still young

I don’t have any cats but I know of a friend who has a cat and three kids and the cat totally ignores the kids and only likes adults 😂😂

Ours were terrified initially (they are scared of everything except us) and kept away for the first few days but have dealt with it. They now come back on the bed in the morning even if she's in bed with us (4 weeks today). They sniff at her but havnt shown any other interest. They don't go near her crib. Obviously every cat is different but you know your cats so I'm sure you can predict what they will be like! Just keep a close eye the first few days.

Mine totally ignored my son lol

Our Maine Coon hates the crying and is quite jealous of the attention. She hissed a lot at the baby at the beginning, but never did anything and stayed away. She actually spent days hiding behind the sofa. Make sure your cat has a place to go and hide. We bought her lots of nice food and treats and make sure we play with her once a day despite the business of it all. We're now 3 months in and she's definitely still hissing, but it's only directed at us, but she also comes for cuddles so she's definitely getting better. She also came to sleep with us for the first time last night since baby was born. It might take some time for your cat to adjust.

Mine loves my little man was my car for 6 years and she has chosen him as her new human

I have 5. They completely avoided him in the first 3 ish months. They definitely had to get adjusted but now they’re obsessed with him and are so sweet :) just be sure to keep their nails trimmed :)

Cats will be fine. Mine adjusted well as long as they know when they get to cuddle with me.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding