Anxious about MIL moving close by during newborn phase

I’m an a FTM and due end of Dec and I’ve known that my in laws are moving to our neighborhood on a short-term basis for the first 4 months of baby’s life. Then they will be moving about 2 hours away.

As my due date approaches I’m getting increasingly nervous about it. This is a first grandchild for them and I know they’re excited and also that I can’t stop them from moving nearby. My partner and I have communicated to my MIL that she shouldn’t have specific expectations of seeing the baby and that I won’t know what any visitation schedule will look like until I can come up for air post-birth. But I know I will feel overwhelmed/guilty knowing they’re here and that I’m keeping them away from baby. My partner has reinforced the message too but I can’t shake my anxiety about feeling them hovering around(even if they aren’t in the house). I also just like don’t want her advice or input.

Does anyone have any tips for good ways to communicate this apprehension to my in laws as well as my partner? Any good schedules/boundaries that have worked well for you in similar situations? I was thinking maybe saying okay one day a week for an hour (and maybe I can be out of the house or napping) and then maybe stop by another time to help/bring us food and briefly see baby. I don’t want to offend anyone and I’m usually the type that lets people walk over me, but I don’t want this precious time in MY life to be about them. I know later on I will be grateful for their help, but the newborn time I really just am feeling so protective over. Help! 😭

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Girl!! Im kind of in the same boat! My MIL lives in vegas but shell be here for 14 days when im due the 1st week of december. One good is it sounds like your hubby is on the same page as you and as long he continues to reiterate to them what you and him both want, they should respect that. My hubby has literally told his mom what she will and wont be doing, shes very pushy and overbearing. I feel the same way you do, im stressing about her being here. My parents will also be here and i feel stressed about my MIL thinking that im going to allow my mom to help out more, which i will. 😂

Also, you can have them help with little things, like bringing you food, neccesities, and maybe some small chores. 🤷🏽‍♀️ just a thought.

Lololol yes my mom will definitely see me more, as it should be!!
One piece of advice I got was for the first 2 weeks, no one should be over at your house who you aren’t comfortable seeing your boobs. You shouldnt have to cover up to feed your newborn in your own home.
I’m glad your MIL will only be there for 2 weeks, and yea use your husband to enforce the boundaries! Good luck to you

good luck to you too!! Thats a good thought too, about being comfortable in my own home. I didnt think of that!

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