I’m an *ss

Respectfully tell them to stfu. What is wrong with them?? Babies cry. Big deal. It’s not like you’re smacking him around or neglecting him. If they’re SO concerned about him crying than they can step up.

I read something that says we or dads are babies and kids safe place and usually they will be good for others but around mom they act out or act themselves. Idk if that helps. I normally put my baby in my lap and show him what I’m doing then give him a toy, gives me like 5 minutes of piece. My baby whines alot too. I let him fuss it out but if he starts crying then I get him.

There is a big difference in letting them try to self soothe for a few minutes and letting them scream until they are choking. In the end it's your child and you do what you think is best

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You said your self you’ve literally tried everything. A bad mother wouldn’t try anything. Remember, little ones don’t come with their own specific owners manual. As a mother of 4, (3 of which I was a single mom for several years), I can share that it definitely gets better! 😉 Keep your head up and ask for breaks from the critics.