Am I in the wrong?

My partner works and helps with any wake ups from either of my boys, even in the newborn stage! I would be annoyed

We tend to split the night. My husband does bedtime etc and any wake ups till 12-1am then I take over.
I tend to go to bed at 9-930 so I bank a few hours sleep. It works for us at the moment and I feel less tired/ worn out and he gets some sleep before work. We also wear ear plugs as I couldn’t switch off if I’d hear her cry, I then take them out when I take over. Oh totally get you though, you want a break but you don’t want to be apart from them too!! 🤯

I think you’re very lucky to have that few hours in the spare room on a weekend.. I EBF and co sleep.. my husband has never seen to the baby during the night nor had he ever gotten up with him in the morning. Don’t get me wrong! During the day he’s a very hands on dad! But I would love a couple of hours to myself in bed. It’s such a difficult period for both us mums and the babies. But no, you’re not wrong to expect help during the night in the week x

No you are not wrong. Partners should help more even when they work. If you can get a friend or your mum to help during the day and take a nap works wonders. I go to my mums once a week and I get a full night sleep and don’t worry about anything. Keeps me sane and a better mum x

Me and my partner were like this for a few months and it’s so draining, I broke and had to leave for a bit and we came up with a plan that would suit both of us, so we are getting equal amount of sleep. I pointed out that even if he goes to work, he gets to clock off at the end of his shift, my job is my baby and it never ever stops and then I have the added of doing absolutely everything else except bedtime.

Maybe coming up with the plan would help but I think you’re very much entitled to want help, it’s his child too, there needs to be a balance.

I hope thinks work out ok for u mama x

Not at all. That’s life now. You both chose to have a child. My partner doesn’t really do night shifts unless he knows I need it but I have said to him when I’m back to work I won’t be doing them all the time. He has been helping and he does get up early with the baby so that I can have a lie in so that’s our compromise. You also need to stop pleasing all the family to see little one etc and need to make sure you take care of you. I think people forget there’s a reason why maternity leave exists, because you’re adjusting to life with a baby, sleepless nights etc etc, it’s not a jolly and to do everything for everyone. What does your partner expect to happen if/when you go back to work? I would start having those conversations now and managing expectation and being a little bit selfish because he sure is!